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*ilish
writes:Hiya there. I need your help. My twin is stuck and she isn't a member of this site so I said I'd let her write it on mine. Well first off, about 3 years ago she was in love with this boy called 'R'. They had a thing going off for ages. They would spend everyday together, make each other smile. Everyone could see how happy they were. However, just in the process of them getting together, my twins best friend suddenly got with him, knowing that my twin was going to. my twin was absolutely distraught. She was heartbroken, I've never seen her so low. A lot of people fell out with this girl for hurting my twin, and R as well. However, my twin realized she had to be happy for them so R could stay in her life. R ended up with this girl for about a year and a half. All they did was argue, she said things like he had hit her. R would never touch a fly. Soon they split, and our friend was heartbroken. And who was there for her the most? my twin. Even though she loved R too.Our friend still loves R, but R doesn't want to know. He loves my twin. They both come out with me and my boyfriend, and I've never seen them both so happy. My twin usually gets so hurt with boys, she'll come in crying and not talk to anyone. I've never seen her smile the way she does when she's with R. They want to get together because they make each other happy. My whole family thinks of R as a son, just like my boyfriend. But my twin cries every night saying she can't because she doesn't want to hurt/lose her friend. But if I'm corrected, didn't her friend do the same to her? I've never seen my twin so happy and R desperately wants her? Can't they just try and can't her friend just be happy for them like my twin was for her? Or is a bridge that shouldn't be crossed?
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Your twins friend isnt much of a friend at all, to be brutal and honest. Friends do not do what she did. She knew how your twin felt and what did she do? She betrayed your twin for something she wanted, probably actually just to spite your twin. Your twin sounds like a decent person who deserves to be happy with R so she should just go for it. And while shes at it she should probably dispense with the 'friendship' of this other girl.
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reader, srs21  +, writes (14 April 2011):
Well Eilish,This situations seems to have a couple things... Jealousy, and fear. If R and your twin are very happy they should give it a whirl. And your twin's friend should set her jealousy aside and remember how she had a good attitude while she was with R. Your twin needs to stop being so fearful and take a risk since she loves him and he loves her. And if it doesn't work out go back to being great friends. I don't understand why people break up then hate each after. It's not good lol
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reader, lovelyeyes +, writes (14 April 2011):
Omg I agree w/u!! Her friend didn't care that your twin was hurt when they started dating. So I say go for it. Your friend will understand. The only thing is won't it be weird knowing he was w/her friend? I can't picture my friend w/my man that would be to weird. But what ever floats her boat and if that's what's gonna make her happy. She should at least talk to her friend and be straight about everything. She should also mention to the friend how she was there for her even thought she knew that your twin liked him too ans she still went for it.
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reader, Sophie(L). +, writes (14 April 2011):
I say your twin should get with R. Her friend got with R knowing your twin loved him? She was nice enough to stay friends with her! If your twins friend is a real friend, she'll let your twin and R get together. You can't help who you love, right? You can tell how much your twin loves him, if they want to get together, you shouldn't let anything/anyone stop them! :D
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