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writes: OK, I went out with this guy for a week, then he told me he would rather be friends. I was upset, because I really like him and moved on.I met another guy, and we have so much in common! But I feel bad because although he hasn't officially asked me to be his girlfriend, I really still like the ex.We work next door to each other (the ex) and his boss came in. (he's 18 and I'm 16) and he said to me "I think that he is smitten with you" and things like that. It brought back all of those feelings.And recently he has started to talk to me again, because he wasn't very talkative before. Also, I've noticed that he keeps looking at me and then looking away.I really don't know what to do... help! Reply to this Question
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reader, moomoomoo  +, writes (14 August 2005):
 well, as a guy i think it might be that hes shy or afraid to tell you that he likes you again since hes the one that ended that one week you had. i once stopped seeing a girl and when i felt that i really liked her i was afraid to tell her
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reader, charliesgirl +, writes (11 August 2005):
Well, you did only date for a week- that's not really any length of time in which to become properly acquainted with a man. How long ago did you stop seeing him? Was it very recently or a while back? If it was a long time ago, he may not have been ready for a relationship at that stage, though he might have liked you.
It does sound as though he is interested in you, and there may be a number of reasons why he's afraid to show his feelings:
1) He may be scared of messing you about again
2) He may have seen you out with your new boyfriend and realised that he's missing out
3) He may just enjoy the thrill of the chase!
Whatever his reasons, you need to know what his feelings are for you. It doesn't sound as though you have strong romantic feelings for the guy that you're with.
I would take a chance and speak to your ex about the possibility of going out again, at least then hopefully you will get an answer and can make a decision about what you're going to do next. But please be fair to the guy you're seeing now, if you only see him as second best perhaps it would be fairer to set him free than get deeply involved with him and hurt him in the future, and completely risk losing your friendship with the new guy.
Hope it works out ok for you
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reader, kt  +, writes (11 August 2005):
 hi
i think that just because you have alot in common with someone doesnt mean there will be a sucsessful relationship there needs to be more. also it would be wrong to go out with him when you fanc someone else
i think you should keep working towords the one you like the best you seem to doing fine so far
good luck!!
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