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writes:Hi everyone. I'm dumbfounded. In the past six weeks I have met three men on a dating site, established good email communication over a couple of weeks, met and had a wonderful time. Spent 3 to 5 hours talking, dining and having a very good time. All three have me signs that they were interested including holding my hand while walking, etc, rubbing my arm, etc. All asked me out again, one suggesting three different activities. Walked me to my car, talked a bit, hugged, quick little kiss, goodnight.Emails from all three for about three days, again wanting to know if I wanted to do something again. Then, poof! All three just disappear.This last one did say something like I was kinds scary because I was attractive, smart, funny, warm and real and I would really make guys think about whether or not they are really looking for a relationship. Was he telling me something or was he feeding me bull, or both?I don't understand. We are all in our late 40s or early 50s and all three said they were looking for long term relationships. I send a couple of emails a couple of days apart - short, nothing crazy. Then I just stop. The first one called last week and said the way he just disappeared bothered him and he wanted to apologize because I was so nice, attractive, etc. etc, etc. But he didn't explain why he just disappeared. I didn't call him back.What is going on here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): To the original poster. I am the same age as you and wanted to let you know I have just gone through the exact same situation with a man that I met online. He was the same age as me , divorced . We went out two times and had a blast. Both dates the time flew. We kissed, held hands and thier was a lot of flirting. There was no sex. He was texting or emailing daily. I have not heard from him at all for four days. I sent him a text yesterday and tried calling today. No reply. I wanted to tell you that I think you handled yourself with class. Imagine how both of is would feel if we did sleep with them and they did not call. That is why I never sleep with someone until I know who they are and fall in love. I wish you the best of luck in finding a wonderful man and sorry you went through this. It is not fun..
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reader, Kenneth +, writes (1 April 2010):
The guy above was right. All they wanted was nothing but sex. Have been there, done that. I would suggest you try & meet men in person anywhere, but on line. Their loss, not yours. You deserve better. Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 April 2010):
I think all three men were after sex, and didn't get it so moved on. They said all the right things at all the right moments. Then when you didn't respond, they looked for others who would. Please don't take it personally. I do think you're a lovely girl, and I do think you'll meet someone who loves you. You'll meet a great guy. Just take your time getting to know them and stick to what you believe. The right guy will wait and will want to date you.
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