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writes:Hey people, Thanks for following and helping me out I really appreciate it. This morning I told her how I felt about everything and how I feel like I'm being slapped in my face etc. etc. The last thing I said to her was "Your breaking my heart. Goodbye______" And since then she sent me 4 text messages saying she loves me and doesn't want to lose me and that she needs me in her life. Then she sent me a 4 page letter to my inbox on facebook saying that she knows its her fault and that she is sorry. She said that she tells her self to stop but its like her mind has a mind of its own. She goes on to say that there is really nothing happening bewteen the guy and her and that she needs me in her life and she spends about a whole page talking about all the things we've did together and the good times we've had with each other. She wants me to give her another true chance to redeem herself but I don't know. She said she realizes that she was the cause of everything, even the problems similar in the past and that she is truly sorry. The last thing she wrote was that she was still madly in love with me and still wants and needs me in her life. She didn't even go to class today because she was crying so much. She said she doesn't know if i will talk to her again but she hopes one day i could forgive her because she will always love me and no one will ever have the type of love we had. And that she will always be here when I want to start things again. I don't know what to do. I stopped talking to her all day. And I know its been eating her alive. But I think she has to feel this way to see where I'm really coming from. But early this morning she told me to call her back. Should I? Or should I do what someone said and wait a couple days, and check to see if she is still talking to the guy and then that will determine the outcome. How does that sound? And her bestfriend really likes me (as a friend) and was basically on my side. I know she called and told her about it because she was hurt, but do you think I should call her friend and try to see if she can talk some sense into her? I mean I know her friend is really close to her so maybe if I told her to tell my ex, something might actually happen. Do you think that talking to her bf about it, if she is on my side will help? Or should I just stop talking to her for a month not responding to anything and see where her head is at then? I know these are so many questions but you people have been so much help for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate people! http://www.dearcupid.org/question/update-im-still-hurting-and-need-her-to.html
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (1 April 2010):
 I still maintain you should do what I suggested, I was the one who said wait a couple of days and see what she is doing. Don't bring her friend into any of it. It's a bit too high school and no one else should have to be in y'alls argument. No good could come from this. She already knows she shouldn't have talked to the guy and already knows it hurt you, her friend telling her this is no new information. So yeah, don't call her today. It is too soon and you should be able to call on your schedule, not when she tells you to. She isn't the one calling the shots here. Or she shouldn't be. Give it a couple more days, see if she is talking with him STILL and then that should be your answer. If you were so damn important and meant the world to her she wouldn't still be chatting with him, she would be trying to prove herself to you. Not sure if you can still check up on what she is doing though...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): You're killing me! LOL Maybe you should film this because her reaction to reality was better than a movie. She had to have stolen that from an 80's movie. C'mon! I promise you that she is smart enough to know what she's doing. The only thing she regrets is getting caught. I would wait. Be honest, you've told us so much, so tell her the down and dirty truth. Don't hold back to save her feelings because she certainly didn't hold back for yours. If you need some time to decide what you want to do, tell her to wait for you because you are still very hurt. If then you find out that she ran to this guy, don't let her fool you; this was her out. This is between y'all, not the friend, so leave her out. sides = defensive = bad! You know as well as I do, along with everyone else here, that if people are in love they make it happen. They cherish their partners happiness like gold! The thought of cheating or decieving nauseates them. Forget status, labels, and everything else! These people just want to bask in eachothers presence. That's love. Is that you? Look, the hardest part about this is facing that there may not be a tomorrow for y'all. Let your self think because the people on here (me too) are not the people to tell you how to live your life. We tell you how we live our lives. Good luck man.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Just something to help you get more answers - it would be a really good idea to provide the link to your other question so we all know what is going on. To other people that did not answer your last question this all will seem very odd and they will have no idea what you are talking about!
Just log in to your account, use the answer box at the bottom of the page and provide a follow up. It will verify you as the original poster if you are logged in to your account, and it will come up in yellow!
Thanks!
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