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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Im in love with a married man who is 10 years elder than i do. I had recently broke up with a guy.. soon after my break up this man came in my life ( we knew each other even before my break up but we got close to each other after my break up) This guy usually comes and speaks to me.. i found him looking at me when im with my friends.. it was strange for me because he was married and with a kid.. he initiated and tried to chat with me voluntarily whenever he sees me alone because he never talks to me in public.. he said he wanted me to be his friend.. then i treated him as a good friend.. we talked over the phone a lot.. once he dint respond me well on the phone.. so sent a message stating i wont call him back.. immediately he apologized literally begged and told he is so sorry to hurt me.. and he seriously felt a lot.. i started liking his company.. we became close.. i told him that there were many girls looking at him etc.. etc.. he started asking about my marriage and about guys.. since i got broke up recently i told ( he dint knew about my past ) i told there is still time to go.. he always says the guy who's gonna marry me is gonna have real time with me ( because i keep pulling his leg all day)... we just talk like this always.. and share gossips( though he doesnt like to gossips.. he just keep listening me ) he is always bothered about my marriage and partner.. he gets me whatever i ask for, all time he is ready to help me.. i told him not to talk to my girl friends.. he really listened to me without asking why.. but he often asks about my marriage... i tell him im very possessive female .. the guy whom im going to marry will have a bad time if i keep him isolated from girls so i dont want to spoil any one's life.. he was like " Oh, that is the reason why you keep watching at me very closely.. to which girl i speak to and which girl approaches me, right?" thank God i was so happy he found out that i liked him... ( but am sure he knows it even before ) One fine day while we were having another chat.. he was telling me like i dont know why girls look at me even knowing that am married and with a kid.. i asked him not to think too much high of himself.. the very same day he told me his past.. and it happened to me to tell about my recent break up... and i told this is the reason why i said im not intrested in marriage.. he said this is nothing in life.. ur still a small girl.. move on fast.. live ur life.. dont take stupid decisions.. I also added "if at all if im forced to get married by my parents.. i will not reveal my partner regarding this past... " He answered back like he like genuine girls.. and not the one who is hiding back.. then adviced me to think on it.. this was the last call i had with him.. from then whenever i meet him.. he never looks at me.. nor talks to me with love he had earlier.. he never looks at me now a days.. i don't know what mistake i have done.. i tried calling him.. he pretends to be busy.. and wantedly avoiding me... i was so hurt by his behaviour.. but i just wanted to know what is running in his mind about me??? Did i act stupid with him??? Im hurted so badly.. !!! Please help...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 February 2010):
He's not pretending to be busy. He really is busy. He has a child and a wife. You were a mistress. That's it. You have learned a lesson. Married men are off limits. Cut contact and move on.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (20 February 2010):
He is busy because he has a wife and child. He was only going to use you as his plaything. Move on and find somebody else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): I think he loves you because he always wants to know about your wedding thing.. and to know more about the guy you wanted to marry.
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 It sounds to me as though he wants to be nothing more than friends. Accept that and move on from there. Find someone who is available and willing to treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
This man has no intentions of anything than friendship!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 He's made a good decision. Don't make it any harder for him.
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reader, weparley +, writes (20 February 2010):
Is this seriously a question?
"I mean... Get real!"
Both of you sound very unstable.
Keep in mind... "You reap what you sow"
Don't think for a minute anything (good) will
come from this senseless relationship
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