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writes:I've been casually seeing a guy for eight months. We had been friends on myspace (he added me), but I deleted my profile so about a month ago I tried to add him on facebook. He denied my request! He has over 100 friends so clearly he's not that choosy. I don't understand why he can be friends with anyone, male or female, except for me.I asked him about it and he gave me a bull answer. If any of you have rejected someone you're currently involved with, why did you do it? It really bothers me because I feel like either there's someone on there he doesn't want to see that he's friends with me (or vice versa) or he really doesn't think of me as a friend. To make it even more confusing, he told me he loved me the other night!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): I'd say, tell me to go and look for another door mat. Honestly, why would you want to be with a guy like that?He obviously is trying to hide something from you, and what could that be? Another girl.So move on, watch that movie 'He's not that into you' with Jennifer Aniston, come back to reality and stop being one of those girls that let guys step all over them. It's bad for you and bad for other girls, because guys just think they can be jerks like that and it would be okay.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 ahh i had a similar experience went out this guy was all over me i wasn't particularly interested he told me to find him on facebook so i did tried to add him he denied i was like um ok why you deny me he said i like someone else sorry if i led you on i was like no not at all but why can't you add me as a friend?
so he did
message him just say look why can't you add me as a friend on facebook?
he's bullshitting you saying he loves you!
he's got something there he doesn't want you too see.
he may have pictures up of him and some girl he always sees or him and random other girls i'm not sure.
but definately message him and find out why.
keep us updated :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Maybe it has something to do with the fact that you deleted your profile. He may have taken that to be a sign that you were not interested in him, or had found someone else. The best way to find out is to ask him. If you don't like his answer, then I would not spend anymore time on this guy. He sounds like a player. And yes, he may be involved with someone else now, hence the weird behavior. xoxox
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Someone who seriously loved you wouldn't do that to you. Men lie for convienience and the players will tell women they love them to keep them on the hook.
Do the smart and sassy thing...totally ignore him. Just keep your closest friends on FB or it will become just a 'spying' tool and you won't be able to enjoy it.
Seriously you need to walk away from this one. If he truly loved you, he would be in a relationship with you!!
Sorry for the tough answer...but my heart feels for you...don't let your pain over him go on.
Aunty Em x
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Hmm sounds like there's something fishy going on there. I can't think of a reason why he'd not want his current girlfriend on his friends list unless he doesn't want someone else to know he has a girlfriend. Another woman? Seems a bit odd to me. When I'm with someone I love I want the whole world to know I'm with this person. I would confront him about this again. Add him as a friend again. It shouldn't be a big issue but it could be hiding something that is.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
 I find your question hard to answer because you didn`t say what his bull answer was or why you think it`s bull.It very well may have been an honest mistake.Generally the best answers come from the heart and or gut.So try listening to yourself.Maybe ask him to add you? If he is refusing more than one attempt to add him then yes there is defiantly something fishy going on.
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