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30-35,
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writes:I just cheated on my girl friend of one year. I knew it was wrong and once things started to progress from just kissing I had to stop because I just knew that what I was doing was a terrible thing. I told the girl I had to stop and I just went home. I feel terrible for what I have done to my girl friend and the guilt is eating me alive. I really care a lot about my girlfriend and I should be punished for what I have done. Should I tell her? What should I do? Please please help me.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (11 February 2009):
 If you really care a lot and feel you should be punished for what you did then why are you asking us if you should tell her? You should by the way. You can't possibly never tell her. Believe me, things have a way of getting out even if she doesn't know the girl and you think it never could, one day she will find out. And "finding out" is about 100 times worse than being told upfront. Nothing happened outside of kissing. You were bad yes, but you did stop yourself. If she found out one day, there is no way she would believe it was only kissing. She would ask why you didn't tell her then. I have experience with this so trust me. I would rather have been told then find out... the trust is gone forever that way. And even if she never found out, if you love and care for her then the guilt would eat you alive. Tell her you made a mistake and will do anything to fix it. Honesty is the best thing you can do for her now. You already made a mistake once, don't make another one by keeping it from her. The fact that you left shows you love her. Once she gets over the intial fury she will be able to see it. There was nothing stopping you from having sex with this girl except your love for your girlfriend. Good luck.
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reader, steffi666  +, writes (11 February 2009):
men are weak and so are women. but you stopped your self not many blokes would. you were bad dont get me wrong but yyou know that and you stopped b4 it got worse. if there is no way that you bird can find out dont tell her youll hurt her for no reason aslong as you dont ever repeat it. she may never trust you again and youll lose your relationship, but dont ever let it get to that point again you have a second chance dont ever blow it.
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