| A
female
,
*aTaLiE v9A
writes: dear cupid i am 14 years old and quite shy all the boys say im ugly and take the mik out of me because of what i look like it really upsets me i dont know what to do to make myself pretty im not as ugly as they say but i cant get a boyfriend all my friends have one but im too ugly please help mefrom natalie vaughan xxx
View related questions:
shy Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, camilley  +, writes (14 December 2015):
I know that to make your self look pretty is tell the people you dont care what they say and u can always put on makeup and lip stick and get your hair done and nails really pretty but most of all u should be,yourself and don't care what people say I night not know u but your beautiful.????
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): dont worry guys tell me im soo ugly and i cant get a boyfriend and when i get a boyfriend he is soo wierd and follows me or wants to have kids with me in a day and all i want is to find the man of dreams but i cant um getting to think that im going to be an lonely old cat lady sad face
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Sweetie don't listen to boys there wrong no one is ugly is this world we are all just different ad have different looks.
looks aren't about everything remember.
In a few years time you will be probably going out with a really attractive guy , because inside his heart you are pretty .
don't agree with boys or get upset cause they call you ugly just ignore them i always tell myself if someone calls me ugly they think i'm pretty inside.
If you want to make yourself pretty be your self don't change your looks just because you want a boyfriend, because you will hurt the real you. Many girls around my school try and make there self pretty by covering up in loads of make up and they don't get no were cause its not their natural look .
just remember looks aren't about everything ignore boys .
hope this Helped xxx
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): hey, don't worry, boys are just complete jerks and sat girls are ugly because they know they will get upset by it. I don't know you and I don't know what you look like, but I am sure you are very pretty in so many ways. Next time you look in the mirror look really hard, and notice all the great things about you, the things that make you- you!! take a look at your eyes, they are probably the nicest colour you can get, or your mouth, you might have a great smile. Everyone is different and however you look, you should not be worried about it- because that it was you are, and if people can't deal with it- they are not worth stressing over. You are what is important in situations like this.
Hope this helped :) xx
...............................
A
female
reader, ncioel +, writes (2 June 2010):
Your not ugly sometimes guys do that because they probly like im not a love expert but this is what i've have always though i'm 14 to but dont let them get to you wate till your in high school the boys go crazy over you because you have changed and you are diffrent pretyer,and all those other girls that get boyfriends no boy will wont to date them because they already have dated them. STAY COFIDENT SOME BOY WILL COME AROUND AND LIKE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!! Wish you the best!
...............................
A
male
reader, Dick92  +, writes (20 January 2010):
Hey, guys call me ugly too, even though I'm a guy. One guys in my class says that I look like Mr. Bean. They do it because of their own insecurities or cause they feel jealous. You should learn to love yourself no matter what others think of you. First of all I don't even know if you ugly, I'm just talking after what you called yourself. But no matter how ugly you are, if you have self confidence, and don't care about what others think of you, you actually look good.So stop worrying about that shit.
...............................
A
male
reader, Dick92 +, writes (20 January 2010):
Hey dont worry bout that shit! I'm in high school an guys sometimes call me ugly and this one guy started saying that I look like Mr. Bean from yesterday lol. But, its just cause their jealous and wanna make you feel insecure. Cause my family always says that I am beautiful and handsome and all that. But to sum it all up you gotta learn to love yourself on the inside. Looks are nothing. If you believe you can attract guys you CAN. Just try to look the best you can, don't put too much make up and thats about it!
...............................
A
female
reader, chloeeeee1x  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 helloo.
i've had a problem with boys calling me ugly too.
but i have got the most amazing boyfriend, (he probably only likes me for my personality, and not to be big headed but i'm quite funny) but he calls me beautiful all the time.
he's actually friends with the guys that call me ugly.
but they have seemed to leave us alone, seeing as a relationship is between 2 people.
but yeah i bet your not even ugly.
i have spots, nd i think thats why boys call me ugly.
but maybe a simple bit of makeup could help.
and just ignore boys.
they take WAAAY longer too mature. xxx
...............................
A
female
reader, judyanne +, writes (29 June 2009):
I would not worry about these boysthey are not worth bothering about a boy will come along that will see your beauty for what it is you said you were not ugly carry on believing this you are probably a nice girlat 14 years of age you have yoour whole life ahead of you i would keep believing in myself and that special someone will come along and will have a lot of respect for you.
remember to believe in yourself
...............................
A
male
reader, papercat +, writes (7 June 2009):
OK, honestly, LOOKS ONLY MATTER FOR A FEW YEARS.
then after the beautiful people grow up they realize that they have no personality, no helpful skills in life, no true friends, and on top of that their looks are fading fast.
besides, i have seen "ugly" people be the center of parties, its all about how you carry yourself really. (women do have it harder though because men are so shallow lol)
Just remember ALWAYS LOOK UP, literally people can sense that kind of stuff, keep your chin high, keep a smile on your face and just be a good person and a lot of good things will come to you. this applies to EVERYBODY except people in third world countries because they aren't going to live very long and don't have any opportunities or money anyway. oh, and another thing, your very lucky, women in other countries just get raped their whole lives, have 14 children then die at the ripe old age of 40. so quit being whiney. :)
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): Hey. I really don't know if I'm pretty or ugly. Adults always tell me I'm pretty but I never want to believe it. I always think that they're lying to be polite. When strangers started to stop me in the grocery store and tell me I was pretty so I feel better about myself. The thing is, there are a couple of guys at school who are total assholes and they call me a horse. They even make trotting sounds when I pass by. It really starts to annoy me sometimes but then I remember that I shouldn't care. So what if three retarded guys call me ugly? I could care less because I've got friends and family that love me. Boys always have a way of making girls fell inferior but remember that hey mature two years slower than we do. Just remember that you're pretty no matter what you look like. You're pretty one the inside (not to sound cheesy- but its true). People will love you for who you are. Your time to have a bf will come, even if you're "ugly" (which i doubt), he will like you for your personality. I know that this all sounds cheesy but just remind yourself of this the next time a guy calls you ugly, laugh and walk away.. Works everytime.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): look, im not just ugly, im fat and ugly and poor. so i have no money to buy nice clothes or get a nice hairdo whatsoever, not that i will even bother to, cuz im fat and ugly, so even the prettiest clothes on earth cant save me. i dont think anyone will even like me, i mean, hello, i dont even like myself. i HATE myself. and even if you got a boyfriend just because you look good, that guy probably sucks like shyt. i dunno, but you're not the only person who feels that way. you're probably not even ugly in the first place.
...............................
A
female
reader, nicole656 +, writes (20 January 2009):
hey im 14 years old
and not to act big headed but alot of guys tell meim pretty, fit etc all the time
in the past ive bin called ugly but i dont let that bother me
and the lads that made fun of me before r some of the lads that have been asking me out recently
so u mite not think ur pretty rite now
but u've herd the story of the ugly ducking rite?
add me on msn if u ever need to chat babe :)
oh and anyone hu calls anyone else ugly are discusting and horrible people
xo.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): hi there im 18 and i feel really ugly . iv been called thet near enuff all my life by boys and always been rejected by them . people tell me im really attractive too on the other hand but i havent got a boyfriend and find it difficult to find one. hey ur only 14 you have still got plenty of time yet your lucky . im 18 going on to 19 and i havent got one that would be a bit worrin at my age dont you think? try not to worri . but 4 sum reason i belive that girls that keep bein called ugly are not attractive because i have meet some ugly girls and they have been caled ugly but yet really preety girls who havent been called that and have boyfriends.but still dont worri about it it looks aint everything its just skin deep. we are created the way we are unfortunatly. take care babe xxx
...............................
A
female
reader, Lillyluvsya +, writes (9 September 2008):
I was always told that i was ugly, fat and tall in junior high. I was 5'9 and I HATED it (you might not be tall but I'm using this as an example). I never stood up straight thinking it would make me look short and when someone called me a name I would get really upset. I never looked at myself and thought about all the things that made me pretty, instead I thought about all the negative things that guys said.
Stand up straight, be confdent and put a smile on your face. Loads of make- up only make you break out and don't show your TRUE beauty. Always be yourself too. Its the inside that counts!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): het natalie
your are not ugly! i am 16 years old i know how you feel. i use to be the same way if they dont like u for who u are then they arent good enough for u. if u want a boyfriend then just be urself and maybe every once in a while dress a little nicer. and smile that is the key. everybody loves a smile. when i was 13 i had lots of acne and my family didnt have much money we were kinda struggling but i always smiled and was myself and sure enough i got a boyfriend.
...............................
A
female
reader, Sunshine.xo. +, writes (31 July 2008):
Hey Natalie.
Dont worry about what the guys say.
You're only 14 :P
So listen, Dont care what tey say youstill have ALOT of time.
los if you wnana touch things up do diffrent hair styles and stuff like that!
Rember you still have alot of time and you will find your special someone :)
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008):
hi Natalie
There are times when I think that I'm ugly and times when I think that I'm pretty. There's a boy called me ugly twice. It really knocked my confidence, i was being bullied at the time so it just made me feel ten times worse. There are also boys that have called me pretty, hot and fit, try to remember the compliments that people have given you to. I'm 13 single, (i must admit i do want a boyfriend.) But i am happy
with being single. My friends have boyfriends aswell and it just makes me feel worse; but then again i do have friends that dont have boyfriends and there pretty. Dont let people get to you. Those boys are trying to show off when they call you ugly. I bet they do it when there together or in front of people. Some try to make other people feel small, to make themselves feel big, when one person does that the others join in to fit in all those boys are probably more insecure about themselfs than they make out. I bet that you are beautiful inside and out. You will find a boyfriend, at the moment enjoy all the upsides to being single like not having to deal with all heartache and worries that having a boyfriend would bring.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): Don't listen to these guys. They're probably just insecure themselves and have nothing better to do than tease people. I know its hard- but try not to care about what they think- if they'd stoop so low to tease someone just about the way they look than their opinion really isn't worth much.Beauty isn't everything. A lot of people are considered very attractive even though they're not actually very pretty. Most people actually judge how attractive you are with the way you hold yourself. Some girls who aren't particulary pretty but have this air of confidence etc. have guys trailing around after them.Do you really want to go out with guys who judge you for the way you look? Any guy who's like that isn't worth your time. Trust me- soon you'll find a guy who likes you for who you are- the person who you are inside. If a guy truly falls for you the way you look won't matter- he'll always think you're drop dead gorgeous. :D
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): hi Nat,look i am only 12 but i was wandering if i am pretty or ugly so i was wandering if anyone else had done a blog or sumthin like this but u have answered my prayers dont be worried. most boys nowadays think u hav 2 b a celebrity type e.g perfect body and celebrity beautiful but thats wrong cause:1: they wear gallons of make up and if they didnt wear makeup they'd look like a real human bein because my friend always says wearin makeup is like wearin a mask because its not your real beauty.2: makeup what celeb's wear like £100 magical coverup is soo expensive.And i think im ugly but u no the story of the ugly duckling i think dats what happens to most people they think there ugly when there young but one day the ugly duckling turned into a beautiful swan soo im sure dats wat happens 2 most people n it gives me hope n just enjoy bein young STUFF BOYS THEY ARE LOSERS AND THINK THEY ARE EVERYTHING!!!! soo everyone is beautiful thats including you. I HOPE THIS HELPS BEST WISHES AND LOTS OF LOVE TO YOUxxRooxx
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): Notice how it's always the boys who call girls fat and ugly? and it's almost always with a crowd of other boys or snotty girls? it's because they're trying to get some laughs. they think they're funny when they're not. it really hurts our feelings! i know. i am a 13 year old girl. 5'4 about 105 pounds and a whole bunch of ppl callme fat even though there are other girls in my school waaayyy bigger (no offense if u are) and to make matters worse, i was sitting in french class one time and i sat behind my crush at the time and him and a bunch of my gf's said don't sit in that desk,it's bolts are screwed up. But NOOO i didn't listen,i wanted to sit behind him.....Well u can probably guess where this is going.....Yes, the desk broke under me infront of my WHOLE french class IN OCTOBER!! so i had to undergo torcher for a LONG time. And i'm not that big or ugly. i actually look in the mirror (i'm not vain) and go wow....i'm actually kinda pretty. It's all a matter of perspective and keeping urself happy. and don't worry about those guys. i know it's hard but ignore them! u have good friends who keep u standing at bad times. and when he's ready,the right boy will come along and get u. But if u feel kinda big,eat more fruits and veggies, or bike to school for a change, or jog for 10 mins a day. Don't worry, boys mature at they're own time.But here's a nice poem to keep ur spirits upGirls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy.So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Relax!!! I'm 14, too. I'm not the prettiest, but I'm not drop-dead ugly. I really want a boyfriend, but none seem to like me. Look, you'll come across a boy someday, who likes you for your personality not your looks, and trust me he'll be quality. Don't let the boys bother you, trust in your girlfriends, you'll remember them a lot longer then any of the boys you meet. That's the conclusion I've come to with my own problems, and its actually made me feel a lot better and more confident.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): look people honestly love you 4 who you are not what you look like, if you want to be liked more be youself. you say that your ''UGLY'' that is your own opinon, but remember beauty is REALLY IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER. so you maybe considered as beautiful by someone else thats becuse to them u are beautiful. If you dont bye at least accept you are beautiful to others.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): True love is never on how you look but how your soul is....it might seem impossible but you will find someone just be your self....and think and say to your self your beutiful and you will be
also remember no one is ugly
...............................
A
female
reader, tabara +, writes (6 March 2008):
boys are stupid when you study their attitudes. I am 14 year old who is in high school some of my friends said that i am pretty.a lots of boys love to mess with me and some time they love to call me names and later they said i am just kidding are know when they say mean things about me they like me or shy to tell me.some boys call girls ugly because they like you or they just want people to pay attention to them.don't pay any attention to them just be your self and acts like you do hear what they say and they will stop,and may be they just like you and do not want to say it or want to put it in a mean ways.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Don`t be so high on your self my self some fat boy call me ugly and he always want to talk to me play with my phone and also want me to be nice to him,but others people say that i am pretty,i am very skinny not that much a lots of boys like me want to talk to me are am very clean look nice to school wears goods and attracted clothe are am also tall are mix my hair color and are hang outs with pretty friend boys also called me sexy. are think you choose be like me who do not care what people says and do not make some little stupid boys call you ugly.just be your self I hope my advice help you
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): Babe everyones different
no one boy can tell you you're ugly,
nor one group of boys, because theres a group of
boys somewhere else that are probably plain out
fascinated in you. I didnt get my first boyfriend until
I was about 15 no lie and Im skinny, i keep my hair nice
I know how to do my makeup I'll admitt im a weird kid but im nice and respectful very fun and thats all you really have to do. be polite take care of yourself and be yourself if the boys you're attracted to dont appriciate you for that well
they're missing out on a great girl.
-laurennicole
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): well i thought that i was ugly and all i needed waz a new hair syle, a few jeans that make my ass look bigger. Plus i gave myself a "make over" every night and just through myself out there!!!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): Hi Natalie, I'm going through exactly the same as you. I'm 14 too. It can be hard at times but you've just got to act like you don't care and ignore those guys. Many girls I know have never had a boyfriend and yet they're beautiful.
Have you ever heard of the song Beautiful by Christina Aguilera? Listen to it and it'll make you feel sooooo much happier.
If you see some pics of some celebs when they were younger, they weren't exactly beautiful or attractive but they've all matured into beautiful adults. Some people who aren't that beautiful when they're younger, grow into beautiful and amazing adults. That thought keeps me going.
I have some days when I think i'm ok looking and other days when I think i'm hideous and the ugliest person ever, it's all to do with hormones. We're all still maturing and i'm sure you'll mature into a beautiful young adult.
If this is any help, my mum recently went to a school reunion and the people that were 'beautiful' were ugly now cause they'd partied too hard and got involved in drugs and smoked but the people that were 'ugly' were really successful and beautiful.
Everyone is beautiful in their own way, including you. Society has a certain stereotype of what is 'beautiful', only the stupid people like the boys who are taking the mick out of you believe that.
The boys that are taking the mick out of you, are bullying you so it might be helpful to tell a teacher.
All this might be hard to deal with now but in the future you'll be beautiful and all the guys will be after you.
Hope my advice helps.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): hey don't listen to what other guys have to say i thought i was getting acne and i tried everything makeup but it just made it worse turnned out i didn't have acne and i was so happy but i learned that it's not on the outside that counts it's whats on the inside that matters. Im 16 and i know your probly saying looks do matter as every teen girl would Lol. I promise you as you get older everything will change and no one will make fun of you. Don't care about what other people think all the best ....good luck ....xXx
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): hey dont listen to them the talk shit i look pretty but i dont have a boyfriend u should take it slow and than u will have a boyfriend and u will get married u can put make up on where skirt
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): Hey i feel your pain I am 15 yrs old. One day I was just walking into class and one boy and two girls said i was an "ugly white girl". it really hurts!!!! you just have to realize they are insecure w/ themselves, or trying to be cool or funny but it's not. one day they will GROW UP!!! but ya i know how u feel!!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): dont worry i feel the same but try to put make up and stuff and maybe you'll change you self remember it dosen´t matter what they think it matters what you think.. . if they really tell you that your ugly is because they have no life and are self conscious of them self and their are trying to take out there frustration on bothering you latersz i hop you feel better too...(mod note: deleted personal email information.)
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): hi natalie
you should never let anyone tell you that your ugly because no one is ugly how ever you look at it just for the fact that not everyone is perfect you should b pruod of the way you look the way you speak an the way you dress never listen to what other people have to say becayse
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
when someone says oh your ugly you can neva get a boyfriend just think to your self that there jealose of the person you are and im sure there is someot there that does like you but hasnt had the confidence to tell you so never look to the bad side always think posative and keep smilin kid take care
michelle (england)
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): hi im 13 and i live in the uk and i get told im ugly all the time by guys im 5 ft 6 loads taller then my friends which is so annoying im really thin but its not a gd thing i got beat up once because everyone said i wasnt eating all my friends say im pretty buts thats only because they are my friends. i guess you just have to go with it i mean there will always be people better looking then you so im trying not to worry to hard and u shouldnt either
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): READ THIS, I THINK IT COULD HELP ALOT
Natalie,
I went through the same thing as you. I didnt really know if I was attractive or not. People told me that I was skinny and pretty, but sometimes i just didn't believe them. And the boys!!! They are retards, give it some time you will look and feel beatiful. If this doesn't help you here are some tips.:
1. Wear makeup more often. Mascara and a little bit of eyeshadow.
This will make your eyes look more vibrant. If you don't have any, tell your mom or whomever to buy some for you.
2. You can also buy some lipgloss and put it on anytime you want.
3. If your hair is straight, don't worry about it. (Just remember to brush and wash it, and occasionally style it.)
4. If your hair is frizzy, curly or wavy straighten your hair with a hot iron. (these are available at local stores like walmart and target.)
5. To defrizz your hair buy some leave in conditioner or defrizz cream.
6. You could also get cute clothes at store such as Aeropostale, American Eagle and Papaya. Stores like American Eagle can be expensive at times, so alway wait for sales or buy clothes on clearence.
i hope this advice helps,
XOXOXOXOXO
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Hey :)everybody at school thinks im ugly, all the chav lads in cars tell me im ugly, ive just had a chav telling me all his mates think that my face is ugly even though hes never seen me :)i think i have an idea why im considered ugly, i have spots, not full on achne but its getting there, i have pasty skin too and underweightthink to yourself all those people that have called you ugly and put yourself on a beauty regime that you have to do everyday, you have to put yourself first
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Nataliewhen i was 12, boys thought i was ugly, they called me 'fat' 'dog' 'ugly'but then the 6 weeks holidays came and i was really upset i was ugly and fat, then i thought, ive had enough of this and went on a diet got a new hair style wore make up, wore clothes what made me skinnier ( try the new fashion maternity top or a belt above the waist) try and get your hair cut so its chopped into your face it will make you look skinnier and change your hair colour to the colour you suite best :D thts what i did and after the holidays the boys was like omg you look so pretty and i just said 2 them excuse me i thought i was ugly ! you should of seen there faces i have boys crawlin all over me now!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2007): well i have the same problem too.. in elementary school people said things like that to me too but now that im in high school i only have one friend and i dont hear people saying that anymore but they might be sayingit behind my back u know... well you shouldnt end up like me i constanly hve to get reashorance from other people that im not ugly and that im not fat... well my advice to you is to go on with your life and not to worry about what guys say to you they probally like you anyways but they are to intimadated to talk to you and stuff...and dont worry about not having a boyfriend because i never had one in my whole entire life... it makes me feell like im not pretty enough or good enough but i can dwell on that for the rest of my high school years... p.s im 14 too..... i hope i helped bbbye good luck!!!!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): I am 14 as well and i have gone(and is still going) through the same things, but i have learned that you shouldn't try so hard to get a boyfriend. yes it would be nice to have a loving and supporting boy toy, but you dont need one. i have also learned just to ignore any negitive things boys or anybody tells me, and if you learn to love yourself a lot more people will like you. (dont be concieted though :P )
but probably the most important thing to do is not to try so hard, just act like you dont need a boy to be happy because the only reason a boy wants a girl is for sex. young 14 year old boys dont want anything but sex. but after they get what they want, they will go for the girl who didnt give them what they wanted (A.K.A you :) )!!!
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): look in the mirror if your ugly your ugly if your pretty your lucky if people call you names just say yeah because everyone likes you
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): i know what u mean im 14 but do u honestly value these boys' opinions? dont feel u have to use make up in order to get noticed - if the guys ae giving u hassle then r they worth it??
...............................
A
male
reader, Dos_Vinci +, writes (22 March 2007):
 If you wear makeup remember the secret is to make it look like you're not wearing any at all!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): well i am the same way but only the boyz only go with me to get to my friend and i am sick and tired of this i need help tooo i no what u r going through!!!!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2007): Everyone is beautiful. Even if they are told they are not.
just check for these.
clear skin (no pimples or blemishes)try neutrogena acne scrub it works really good!
maybe you have glasses.. ask your parents for contacts!
experiment with make-up! try new things. use a dash of a soft pink lip gloss now and then.
A few things can make you look much better!
Make sure if you start getting attention it doesn't change the person you are. Stay the same, don't get full of yourself, cause if you do then people won't lik you any more.
Love alwaysss
me
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2007): Hey nobody is ugly, because everyone is beautiful in their own way. You should not let other people bring you down because one day someone will find you beautiful!
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): If you want to look more pretty put make-up it helps.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): Ok you should not worry because being pretty does not matter. What matter is how you are from the inside. and not how you look from theoutside.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): Dont let people make you feel bad! Stand out and stop hiding behind your flaws and someone will fall for you!!Good luck!xxxxxxxxxxxx
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): I am going throguh the same thing and my high school is brutal I dont really get called ugly to my face but I can tell that popel think that buy the way they stare i have pimples on my face and to me it pretty gross but I cant really help the its the whole heredity thing i will lose them in the future hopefully but until then i would say justy be urself and surrond urself with friends that u know are trust worthy and try make up
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2006): hey natalie i no how you feel i am in your situation at the moment and i know it isn't nice i am only 14 and i am covered in spots n i think i am the most ugliest thing goin but you cant let them boys bother you obviously hey are the ones who need to grow up! All my friends have boyfriends to but i havn't and it hurts i know but there the ones missing out!! don't worry about them and soon they will stop!!
vicki x
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): I'm 19 live in the uk (so 14 is about year 9, year 10) but I didn't fancy any girls then. This girl who I fancied when i was at 6th form (she was honestly hot) I found a picture of her about 13, 14 and she didn't look attactive.
14 is about the time when people change the most physically and mentally as a teenager. Girls were "developing" and some of the guys were turning to drugs. And also teenage boys are arrogant, teenage girls are bitchy.
You'll find someone like some people have said here just enjoy being with your friends and as for those guys who said you were ugly, see what they're like in 10 years time (arrogance when your 18 is not a good thing and they won't get far unless they change).
...............................
A
female
reader, BoiCrzy75925 +, writes (5 November 2006):
Hey, Natalie,I am in the exact same situation as you are. I know how much it sucks. It's like just when you really build your confidence up and start telling yourself that you're beautiful, all the guys just tear you down all over again. Been there, done that, still there, still doing that.My advice to you is just to keep on telling yourself that you're beautiful. Stand in front of the mirror and just whisper, "You're beautiful," over and over. Yeah, I know-it sounds really, really, really weird, but it's a good way to build your self-confidence. No one else has to know about it but you. That's what I do, and it works for me. And don't worry about those boys. As it has been said before, they're just insecure, and making fun of you is a way for them to make themselves feel better.You may also try to find the color you look best in and find the hairstyle that works best for you as well. Then, just wear that color and that hairstyle a lot. Experiment with putting on your make-up different ways, different hairstyles, and different colors and types of outfits. Just pamper yourself and give yourself a full make-over. Let me tell you, there's nothing quite like an evening of pampering to make you feel good. And by that, I mean go all out-bubble baths, chocolate, nail polish, everything.Think like Christina Auguilira in that song 'Beautiful'. "You are beautiful-no matter what they say. Words can't bring you down. You are beautiful in every single way. Words can't bring you down." and always know that you ARE beautiful, because you are exactly the way that God made you. And even though it may not seem like it, there ARE guys out there who WILL think you're beautiful. You're going to find those guys someday...and when the time is right, you'll find that one special guy. And he'll make you so happy that you'll feel beautiful all the time.All my best and much love,Sarah
...............................
A
female
reader, DrPsych +, writes (5 November 2006):
 You are not ugly...the boys are...they are feeling insecure and feel that the only way to make themselves feel better is to lash out at the unobtainable opposite sex. I wasn't looking my best at 14...few people do with all those hormones taking their toll...but you will notice big changes in your body and appearance over the next ten years. Don't do anything to change because any prospective boyfriend has to accept you just the way you are, not the 'pretend' you. Moreover, you shouldn't accept a relationship with anyone who does expect you to be more than yourself - lets face it they are soooo not worthy! One boy who tortured me at school about my lack of fashion taste and general appearance later bumped into me at 19 in a club...he wanted a date then and confessed that he fancied me when I was younger...so there you go, things are never as straight-forward as you think when you are 14!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2006): First of all sweety, 14 is too young to have a single boyfreind, concentrate on having friends both male and female and you will be much happier.
I am sure you are quite pretty, I never saw a 14 year old who wasn't for the sheer fact that they are so new and shiney almost like the day they were born and the way God made them.
Hair and a little makeup do go along way in improving one's appearance, your local mall or shop will give a free make up lessson which you will always use as you grow older, and a good haircut is a great way to enhance your already present beauty.
I don't know why these guys would give you so much attention in the first place, guys at your age are quite frankly nerds, and if they go out of their way to say that you are ugly, my take is that they really feel the opposite, they are just lacking in social confidence to say to you otherwise, or in essence can't speak the truth.
Don't worry, you will blow them away in time.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2006): Well everyone has put in their bits and I have to say they're all positive comments, but reality check. She's 14 and the internal battles of being "in" or "out" can be quite daunting.
Beauty is said to be in the mind of the beholder which is true, but how many beholders are there in her local vicinity that will say she is beautiful or not, or something in between? A person lives in society, in their localized society, thus they conform a certain way emotionally and mentally to that society, unless they are a recluse or their will-powers are strong enough to hold themselves together away from the media of the whole.
It's easy to give yourself the illusion that you are beautiful no matter what, but at a time when mirrors either did not exist or were not clear enough to give accurate reflections, individuals often relied on others for complements or suggestions. She Natalie lives in a high school structure where being in style or being a certain way or being with certain people is a big thing. By having others say she is either beautiful or ugly is personal preference and can still be truthful. Like myself, I have been called damn ugly to damn hot - really depends on the people.
So what do I think of myself? I don't know. I am kind of indifferent to what I look like. All I do almost every day is groom, clean, and make sure I am acceptable enough as well as comfortable enough in dress. As far as being hot, ugly, or something in between, I'll leave that to the ever so nitpicking boredom of the media to juggle. It's not really in my mentally to sway either way. I am who I am. If I change, I change myself for myself for my own reasons and not for others per se. [wink]
It's society that guides some of our choices unfortunately. As long as you're human with emotions, you will always be influenced by humans with emotions.
As for making yourself prettier, well, my brother is into fashion and cosmetics. I'm sure most women despite saying you're beautiful and need not change for others will still wear make-up and pretty themselves up with lingerie and outerwear. So for you my dear, I think it all depends on your tastes, and what makes u feel the most comfortable without having to compromise your comfort for what others think you should look like.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): hey hun, look first off evey one knows that u should love ureself first and dont let what a group of silly, hurtful boys say to u! when i was 14 i was probably 'unattractive' for the school i went 2 - i was small, dark, chubby n mixed race which didnt go down well in my school. but now im 20, the boys at my school try n chat me up in clubs with lines like 'i always secretely fancied u blah blah' , ive had successful relationhips n even do some modelling! the point is - they're idiots n ure a gorgeous girl, they wll realise this in time but by then u will be older and probably alot happier in ureself n wont need them! youve got years ahead of u for boys, just relax - ure time will come!
...............................
A
female
reader, b3x +, writes (4 November 2006):
 Hey Nat babes....
You beautiful, no matter what anyone says, ignore these jealous boys and hold you head up high! You knly fourteen, so don't be worrying about boyfriends, you have plenty of time to do that in later life! Enjoy being fourteen and don't worry about a bunch of lads say, just tell them there jealous! xx
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): just remember that you are a beautiful person no matter what anyone says. if you really want you can do some girly things like straighten your hair and put abit of make up on. Your only young so you've got loads of time to have bf's dont be too worried!! xxxxx
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): Ok sweety Dont worry about those stupid little boys, Most of the time boys say that when they actually fancy you really!!.
but in this case I think they are just stupid, and would you really want to go out with boys who act that imature?, no I did'nt think so.
Dont worry about what other people think of you, you know that you are beautiful, who cares what silly little boys think anyway?.
Next time they say that your ugly, just reply "have you looked in the mirror lately?", or "go away you silly little boy!".
that should shut them up!.
Good Luck
xxxx
...............................
A
female
reader, ginger-- +, writes (4 November 2006):
 dont do anything to make yourself pretty
you are who you are
and when the time is right, "that guy" will come
and love you for you and not what you look like
and the people that call you ugly oviously have nothing better to do with their life
and remember you are only 14
relationships really arent worth your timee(so I think)
justt dont let these fags get to u
...............................
|
