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writes:I have sex with my partner, but i never get any pleasure from it. What can i do to sort this problem out,.Its weird cause i still say my partner is good in bed and i have very strong feelings about him. My boyfriend dont like toys cause it makes him feel bad, but this is the only way i get pleasure,when he is not there. i have always had this problem with my ex's in the past. someone please sort me out it isnt funny ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2006): You need to trust in the man you are with. Sound risky, true. Not all men are reliable and not all men are men in the true sense.
It's a chance you take.
I say go on top and while riding, play with yourself. Watch him get off. Take charge.
You don't need to introduce toys. Why not try different positions and use his and your fingers.
Maybe research where your g spot is and how to stimulate it with partner's penis and with his and your fingers.
Start with that and trust.
Learn about one another together. Start exploring. Take time. Don't get discouraged.
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2006): Hard to say what is exactly going on here as there is very little information, but it sounds like you are used to toys i.e. a vibrator, a man's penis will never compare to that....you need to relearn how to have sex without a vibrator..//. Try a lot of foreplay, oral or what ever, and buy some books on sex at your local bookstore as they are very useful in making suggestions and giving specific instructions on how to find your g spot and how to make orgasm happen...believe it, reading these books will change your sexual life...you just need to get started with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): Well figure out what turns you on from playing with toys, is it clitoral stimulation or do you insert it, do you fantasise about other people, is it that your on your own and can relax more. You say that you feel alot for your man but do you feel enough to sit and talk to him about this. Tell him what turns you on, ask him if you can introduce your toy to love making for 10 mins to get you in the mood but do things to turn him on while you play and reassure him its not a reflection on his abilities in the bedroom department. Make him aware that at any time he can say no and reassure him thats its him that means more but also stress that its part of what you like to do and it turns you on and that you would like to involve him and make him apart of the fun and not replace him. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): Ok, I have the same problem.
Although I dont actually orgasm I do still enjoy sex, But if its upsetting you this much then you need to talk with your partner.
I bought a little vibrating bullet to press on my clit whilst we're having sex to see if it could bring me to orgasm, but it hasnt yet. But I understand it takes longer to orgasm during sex so i'm still trying it, it will happen one day for me!!.
But seriously maybe you should suggest somthing similar to your fella, as long as he understands that hes not the reason your having difficulty orgasming, he should come round eventually.
Ok Good luck and try not to stress about this too much, its natural that some women dont orgasm during sex.
xx
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