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female
age
36-40,
*ammye17
writes:I was recently dating a married man....even though i developed strong feelings for this man...i always knew that it was going nowhere....and I never expected much from him..i do feel like i gave more than what i should...but the point is that we got into an argument and ended things because i said things i shouln't have said and he did something he shouln't have done...i feel that he's done too much things to me that have emotionally messed me up....and i'am fed up...howeever we ended in bad terms and I wanted to sent him an e-mail to put some closure to this....there is a 14 year difference here..him being older...but i dont want him to see this as an advantage...should i apologize???????????
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reader, tammye17 +, writes (16 June 2008):
tammye17 is verified as being by the original poster of the question than you soo much older sister for you encourament...:)
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Just keep the ties cut is all I have to say.
The second you contact him, you're going to get yourself sucked back in and feel even worse then you do now. So pick yourself up and move on in life, you're young, you'll be fine.
There's no point of trying to go back when you're going nowhere.
I hope things work out for you.
xo
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 I'm with the Sister. In short: if it's going nowhere, and you know it, why insist?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 June 2008):
 You've enough closure, keep walking and don't look back. And leave married folks alone.
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reader, Brigid  +, writes (16 June 2008):
As long as you are prepared to 'give more than you should' then he will take it. The wanting to apologise is merely an excuse because you still want to see him.
I truly believe that you are worth more than what he is prepared to give you - you are standing in line for a few crumbs of love.
Give yourself a breather, forget about apologising for a week or two and treat yourself. Go out with your friends, do a little retail therapy, get yourself a makeover. Tell yourself that you will only think about it again in a couple of weeks time and then maybe with a little distance you can see him for what he is - a man cheating on his wife, and giving you far less than you deserve.
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