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writes:I have a text question. So I met this guy last week and we fooled around. That was on a Saturday night. So I get this text Thursday night that says "Still wanna hang out. We need to mess around soon". My response was "OK sure." So then Friday night comes and I am out. I send him a text asking if he is out. He responds, "Not yet but will be, where r u?" I responded, "Already pretty drunk will be going home soon." He did not text back. I was hoping he would call after I sent that so he could maybe come over. I don't want to text him again any time soon so as not to look desperate. I don't want a relationship, but just wanted a little fun. Why is that so difficult for a man to understand. Do you think he interpreted my text like I was calling it an evening? I was trying to hint that I would be available. Just some insight. By the way he is 10 yrs younger than me and I am not sure if that makes a difference in his mindset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): At least you know he is not a player. A text from a drunk chick at closing time is like blood in the water to a hungry shark.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (17 October 2010):
 I think the problem is, you're just not being very inviting! Why would a guy want to intrude on a night with your sister? When you tell him these things, it really seems like you should be saying, "I'm going out for a drink with my sister, wanna get together later?" - don't leave it up to him! If you say you have plans, he's going to assume you're busy for the night. He is not a mind reader and may be assuming that you keep thinking up reasons not to see him. Maybe he thinks YOU'RE blowing him off. No guy wants to invite himself along with his casual FWB and sister. It's awkward!
I think this was ANOTHER misunderstanding. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Update: sent a text last night saying "Would have liked to have hung out, but a little too much to drink and I passed out by 10:45. I was a wuss" He immediately responded, "Yes u were, what r u doing tonight. " I said I was meeting my sister for a drink." He never responded. I take that as a brush off, but not sure why he even asks if he doesn't want to see me. Confusing- why not just say "Wanna get together?"
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (17 October 2010):
 I agree with the rest of the people! Your message sounded like you are not in a mood to hang out, that you wanna just go home and sleep.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 October 2010):
It was difficult because what you wrote, to a man, is a brush off. If a woman text me "already pretty drunk going home soon", I'd assume she didn't want to meet. If you'd texted "am going home, want to come with me", he'd have got it.
You just text the wrong thing to him. Nothing more. So text him again and literally invite him over.
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reader, natasia +, writes (16 October 2010):
 'Already pretty drunk' doesn't sound like much of an invitation to me. 'Going home soon' sounds like you need to pass out, given the drunkenness.
I don't think it comes across as a definite invitation, and could actually be taken as a brush off.
Either way, guess you just have to wait. Or text him once (but only once) more ...
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 October 2010):
If I was a guy, I would have read your text as calling off an evening. You should have made your text a little more inviting like, "pretty drunk, will be going home soon, feel like coming over for a housecall?" Okay, that's actually pretty aggressive, but still... I don't think you really implied that you were looking for company. Most pretty drunk people heading home are looking to pass out the second they get through the door.
I think this was just a misunderstanding. No worries, sweet thing!
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