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writes:im 17 gay male. i think i should tell my friends beacuse its getting hard to keep in. but how do you tell people you have known for 10 years your gay? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ganymedes  +, writes (17 January 2010):
Keep it simple when you tell people. Just say "There's something important I need to tell you... I'm Gay."
90% of the time it's a total non-event. If anyone has a problem with it, tell them to go f**k themselves, because they don't deserve your time, friendship or consideration.
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reader, topher747 +, writes (4 January 2010):
topher747 is verified as being by the original poster of the question sorry for the lack of information.
there are 2 girls one ive known for 10 years and one that was my girlfriend for 2 years, i think that these will take it best.
then i have 2 male friends and im not sure how to tell them because the answers seem to say that they dont take it as well.
where i live people call people gay as an insult and to p*ss people off.
ive had to partener where we did mutual masterbation.
thx for your help
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reader, paulofessex +, writes (4 January 2010):
 Perhaps first of all tell a couple of people who you are pretty sure who won't be TOO shocked as this will give you the confidence to tell others, also news spread, so there must be at least one 'gossip' in your circle of friends who will do it for you...lol
I wish you all the best in what will be a BIG BIG step in you truly being to be able yourself.
Please let us know how you get on, l will be watching your question
Best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): It isn't easy, but is probably easier if you're confirming something lots of people have already suspected. How should you go about breaking the news? That depends on lots of factors: who you want to tell, and how you think they'll react.
I'm wondering: could you maybe provide a little more detail about the friends you're planning to 'come out' to? What are their attitudes? Are they male or female? Also, are you already sexually active or just thinking about it?
Of course you could also stay in the closet - in many situations, you might need to - but I think in general, honesty is the best policy.
Best of luck. Sorry for all the vague generalities. As I say, if you can go into a little more detail about your life, hopefully I can give more specific advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): One of my closest friends had this issue. When I first met him, he told me that he was but he hadn't told many of his friends that he knew longer than me. However, telling new friends and having his new friends accept him for who he was, he started telling his long-time friends and it was a lot easier for him.
So maybe getting it off your chest to new friends you meet will make it easier to tell some of your old friends.
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reader, inganio  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 I think it is fantastic that you want to tell your friends you are gay. If they really are your friends, they will totally approve. Maybe start by telling your best friend first in private. Have a talk about it. It will make it easier to admit to other people you're gay. That's what I did, and it worked fine with me. (maybe, if your best friend is a guy, you should underline that you don't have feelings for him, guys tend to freak a bit about that)
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): this is just my opinion but .... why do you have to tell anyone in the first place? If you were straight you'd not have to tell anyone, you'd just be you and not the "gay" one. No one would give two pigs about it. I don't understand why person out themselves although maybe its about acceptance and truely knowing it doesn't matter to those you love. Hiding it may make you feel the need to shout it proudly from the roof tops but i wouldn't think of your whole identity as your sexuality, yes it is a valid part of you but shouldn't be the only thing about you. We love who we love and that should be enough for the world - no explanation for the world is my opinion. Okay - as for your question - just sit them down and tell them you have something to say that you want them to know and then, well, tell them. Sorry i am not much help - sort of went on a little rant.
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