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writes:Hey guys,I know I've asked this question before but now with a few more leads. I think he has caught onto me used to liking him so he has been giving out the same signs aswell lately. I can't bare to look at him during class anymore because maybe it's just be being shy. I'm 16 and I'm going to graduate at the end of the year. We've shared a lifetime of staring into each others' eyes which doesn't help much during class. It's probably just my hormones speaking and making quick infatuated judgements. I do understand the boundaries there should be between a teacher and a student so I've been trying to avoid him. It seems like he's trying to do the same aswell because when I walked towards my friends today he immediately looked at me and walked away. But, during class when he would be teaching he would be staring right into my eyes. It feels so weird.Also after the holidays, when I finished class one day, I was walking towards another, I bumped into him through a crowd of other students and he looked into my eyes then away and commented on my body. I was quite shocked but pleased, I guess. The next day before I went into class we were waiting for him to open the door my friends loudly said hi to me and I responded. As he turned around to grab his stuff on the port racks he just kept staring at me. I looked away a few times (three, four times) and he was still looking at me whilst he was walking towards his stuff. It was strange and suss. I needed to ask him a question so I was like hey sir blah blah blah. And, when I was talking he kept looking at my lips. As he was answering he kept trying to show of his 'muscles' as he is quite musculine.So I'm quite curious, does he like me? I would never act on it or jeopodise his career but I would just like to know.Please help me!Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): Stuck in a classroo teaching kids all day, your bound to get bored and your imagination will get away with you
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reader, xAngels +, writes (25 May 2009):
xAngels is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNew update!!
I've gotten over him now from going out more and hooking up with other guys since I'm single and all. But, lately, I've been talking about it in class or me having a crush on someone and suddenly BAM! He's always in a sour mood in class now... Well, he should get over it xD!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): hello there, i was recently in a similar situation 2 u, where a teacher of mine displayed signs of attraction and affection 2wards me. it's a hard lesson 2 learn, but i reckon ive learnt it, altho im still hurting. i guess it's the fact ur being faced with adult feelings, wen ur only a teenager. i 2 was complemented, stared at, flirted with, even touched and given extra credibility (as in i got a better grade) 4 that by this teacher. do you feel confused? wondering wat 2 do? depressed? anti-social? if so, i totally know wat ur going thru, but i found my friends the best form of support. i know it'll feel weird talking about it 2 them, but do it, they're ur friends, and they sumtimes know u betta then u know urself. above all, don't encourage him. i did, and my broken heart is still sore and aching. don't do this 2 urself, it isn't worth the pain. get a boyfriend ur own age, and i know it's useless bcos ive tried myself so many times: but just try and move on, bcos the longer u hold on, the more intense ur feelings get and the more shattered ur heart bcums. i couldn't bare 4 any1 else 2 go thru wat i have and r still going thru, it's an enormous set back that can b prevented now: so im begging u 2 do it b4 it's 2 late.best wishes, and plz take wat ive said at least in2 acount, and if u feel u can, act upon it 4 ur own sake, happiness and well being :)
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reader, Griffo +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Another good way is if you can: Find another love interest around your own age at your school. if your school is co-ed then it should make things clear to the teacher also.
Don't feel bad about it, I think this sort of thing happens to alot of people in the teenage years.
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reader, Harry Castle  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 xngels, I think you are right to carry on ignoring him, as you said. Nothing but trouble can come from any other action.
How to get over him?
The standard (and unhelpful) answer would be to advise you to concentrate on other activities or sports, etc.
That's no good if your hormones are racing and you have your head full of sex!
There are things that I can advise you to do, but they are rather graphic for this public forum: if you want me to send them to you, write to me directly on here.
Harry.
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reader, xAngels +, writes (28 April 2009):
xAngels is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guy to those who has helped with this question. I feel absolutely pathetic at the moment feeling this way so I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing now and just ignore him. I hope this feeling will fade soon, VERY soon... So once again, thank you guys! I'm open for more comments aswell and to how to get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): I had this same thing happen to me when I was at school.
However I didnt have a crush on him and if he did have a crush on me then so what?
Hes maybe fantasising about you but im sure he wouldnt jeapordise his career to do something with a pupil of his.
yes i would say he maybe does like you but not so much to jeapordise his career.
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reader, Mikados are lush! +, writes (25 April 2009):
 I agree with anon, no one can know but him if he fancies you. And maybe he does, if he is only late 20's its not beyond the realms of possibility. But he's a teacher and would be an utter fool to risk that. There are codes of ethics teachers, doctors, allsorts of proffesions have, that they are taught. If they cross them, more fool them.
Of course you are curious, who wouldn't be. But its doomed if anything happened, so be strong and dont risk it. For his sake more than yours. Sometimes we have to think of others in life before our own needs and wants, its just another learning curve that one!
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reader, Harry Castle +, writes (25 April 2009):
Are you the only one he regards in this way, or one of many?If one of many, it won't be long before he gets discovered and lose his job, or arrested. Or both.If, as I think from your writings, it is only towards you that he has these feelings and he is trying to suppress them, for the above reasons, you should do as you are doing now and avoid involvement.Whilst you are still at school, this thing cannot and must not work. Crushes blow themselves out, and you will focus elsewhere soon, I expect.If that doesn't happen and your feelings towards him get stronger, at least wait until you leave school and/or you are 18.Then go for it!Harry.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (25 April 2009):
Yes, based on the psychology of the body language you described and the body comment he said to you its highly likley he has sexual interst in you. But as you know his professional situation is his concern.
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reader, xAngels +, writes (25 April 2009):
xAngels is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is in his late twenties and plus I forgot to mention when he talks to my friend who sits beside me, he would constantly stare at me in that strange way. And, yes, I do have a silly crush on him. I can't seem to take him out of my mind or stop thinking about him.
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reader, RosalieHale +, writes (25 April 2009):
 Hi,No Offence but this is quite bizare!,It deffintely shows that your teacher likes you in the more "love" way but do you like him?,do you find him hot or is it just getting werider. I mean if he goes any further with you I think you should tell someone, Like maybe another teacher because this could most definately get more serious it is against the law (i think?).But most of your evidence shows that your teacher does have feelings for you.Would you trust him with you alone? that's what you should be asking yourself.Hopefully this HelpsRosalie xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): Well nobody here can possibly know if your teacher "likes you". It's not so unusual for teachers to be attracted to their students. But it is, categorically, wrong.At your age, sometimes the smallest gesture gets so blown up in the imagination and every little thing becomes such a big deal. You begin to see stuff that isn't there, or start interpreting things in the wrong way. What about:-He has realised you have a pretty serious crush on him and it feels awkward for him and he would rather avoid it, and so tries to avoid you when you keep coming on to him-He finds you hot and nice to look at, but realises that he couldn't possibly have a relationship with you. It would probably be way too much trouble etc.Enjoy the crush you have for him now but understand that it can never be and shouldn't be anything more. When you are older you'll see this whole episode in a different light.
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