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male
age
41-50,
*harlie Fox
writes:My girl friend age 33 says lots of people our age 33-40 engage in same room sexual fun where friends get together and party and swap with each other for foreplay and fun with toys but not sexual intercourse. Is this happening as she says ...everyone is doing it? I can see it is exciting and a turn on but I cant believe everyone is doing it and it is the norm? I'm not sure I want to see my girl friend giving oral to another guy even if I am getting the same from another girl.Please update me on whether I have led a sheltered life!
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Let me tell you what exactly is bad in swinging? It smell as dirt- moral dirt, it came close to trading sex. Sex do not get its respectable status, once, in ancient time, it was in a form of religion. In form of expression of god and goddess. Swinging is shameless bargain in spiritual realm. Female loss its dignity, and male its glory. Everything related to sex became as giving and receiving 'service', where as in IDEAL VISION, sex is meant for 'participation'- with nature. And, male and female enjoy the status of god and goddess. Sex means nature, and nature means divine is the ideal formula. But, our normal culture is unable to communicate such message. Our mind are 'possessive' and as a result of 'jealous', that make you to say, 'I'm not sure I want to see my girl friend giving oral to another guy even if I am getting the same from another girl."
In present culture, male female relationship is like relationship of possessor and being possess, and not as a 'partner', not as a worshiper. Well, you feel the idea of swinging as 'exciting', but why? because you think it as receiving... and unable to think as 'achieving'.
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female
reader, Miamine +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Ah... I'm sheltered...... where do I get an IPOD and do I need to bring a date....
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): She's referring to 'soft swinging' - and while not EVERYONE is doing it, it has become more popular with the younger crowd. It's NOT for everyone, and you need to make sure that you CAN see her give a BJ and receive oral w/o being jealous if you're going to try it.
If you want to find out more, go to ITUNES and subscribe to the following Podcasts:
1. Swingercast
2. Swinglife
3. Super Secret Swingers
Even if you don't decide to go there, these podcasts are HOT and may really turn her on!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 March 2010):
I'm as sheltered as you.... Don't consider this normal, this is adventurous sexual practice for people who are exhibitionists and don't believe in faithfulness... Your girlfriend is a swinger, that's what her and her friends like to do.. most people are boring and do the one man-one woman thing.
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 I would say that swinging is not the "norm" in society. I think it definitely depends on what group she's hanging out with, but for the most part, no. Sharing partners is something that is a really tricky situation to deal with, especially because of jealousy. I think most couples would rather just not put up with the headache in spite of the potential curiosity of the suggestion.
Though swinging is a practice that SOME couples do practice, most don't. You aren't sheltered (assuming you already knew that swinging really exists), and I honestly don't know any couple that actually does this. Nor would I ever do it. In the long run, it'll just cause issues.
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