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*ndy00
writes:Hi, I'm feeling a little confused and it's stressing me out.Over the course of the summer, I dated a girl who lived locally to me. The relationship was a little turbulent. There were a number of things we disagreed on, but we persisted, knowing that the relationship could only last until the time we went back to university.Anyway, the time came, and we were both very upset. She considered cutting contact, and I considered the same, but it felt just to hard to say goodbye forever, since we had become so attatched to eachother over the past few months.We said goodbye on monday. On Tuesday night, I found myself feeling alone and cold in my new house, reminiscing about old times with her, and became very upset. I was visibly distraught! Then the very next night in a club, I was shown some interest by a girl, and I've ended up going out with her for the past couple of days.I think my head is struggling to deal with such a sudden change. I still think of my summer girlfriend, and look back on the happy times we had. But she's gone now and I know I have to move on. The girl I met recently is a lot of fun to be around, and very affectionate, which is something I love my partner to be. I just worry it might be too soon.I want to feel comfortable with this sudden change in partner. How can I stop stressing out over it?
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reader, xxmissxx +, writes (20 September 2009):
 sounds like, you new girl is there for you, your sommer love/ex isnt. if your ex wanted you, shed be there, but she isnt, get it?
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Try and pay more attention to the girl you have, and let her be affectionate with you.
Don't treat this girl as a rebound lover. She's paying attention to you, and if you give her a real chance, it sounds like she's very happy being with you.
Surprisingly, the summer love you left behind is probably okay with what you're doing.
But if you're harboring reservations about your old girlfriend, you're not devoting enough attention to the new girl, and frankly, it sounds like you're quite fortunate.
This new girl deserves a chance, so give her one. She might prove to you that the loss of your summer love was probably the best thing anyway.
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