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writes:Hi, I was curious to hear of stories from women who have had affairs with married men and got their happy ending.Please no slander or judgements, all I would like to hear about is stories that have come out the other side were a married man has actually left his wife for his lover.Thanks
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reader, krit  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 To soveryconfused,Sorry to say that but it sucks that YOU have to live this way where your parter is even insecure about his standing in your life. Your lucky to Have him as he can handle this as most men could only be repulsed by that very thought. And getting into marriage with this could be a compelete disaster. But I think as your an experienced lady you would be working on this to fix it hopefully. To op,again sorry to say that but this sort Thing never exist. Just go through dearcupid and you would know the facts. Live with the facts not assumtions. See how many good ending stories are there and how Many heart broken heart post are there because of a mistress.These fairy tale stories would do no good to anyone. You uncover the truth on your own.
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reader, freeme +, writes (3 July 2011):
 In fairness to the OP, she only wanted to hear stories where the mistress got her way, and she and her new hubby lived 'happily ever after'. I can't help but wonder if this ever happens myself. I know it must. I never cheated on my Ex. But our marriage was awful, and often times during our marriage I met women, I would have much preferred to be with. I never pursued them, because its not my style. Now I am alone and looking in from the outside. Having lived through the pain of a crappy marriage, sometimes you can't help but ask yourself, is that person happy? Now what you do with those urges - that is a completely different scenario. I'd like to hear 'success' stories as well. I think its interesting how the women who have responded instantly assumed the wife won't be happier out of the marriage the mistress is trying to pry apart.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 there will be stories i am sure where a married man is genuine when he says he has found himself married to the wife from hell, so he cheats and the mistress turns out to be all he ever wanted so he ends up marrying her and is happy ever after - but op, if these are the only stories you want to hear, will that not cloud your judgement somewhat and help you to dismiss the fact that some married men are just predatory users of women - serial womanisers who will never stop chasing new skirt.
the only story you should be concerned with right now is the one that concerns the particular married man you are involved with (if this is why you are asking the question?)
what is HIS personality like? what are HIS reasons for the affair? what are his intentions? - ask him
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): I'm a guy, and I'll give you a response from the cheating husband side. Cheating makes it all very simple.You see, what you are asking, it just never really works out that way in reality.I've never cheated, but have had opportunities...other women find me attractive, usually women who are younger than my wife, and around the age my wife was when I met her, plus I meet these women when I am working, as almost everyone I work with is female, and most of them are younger.They see me as nice, kind even, I've been called "devastatingly handsome" and "hot" (taller, blonde, great head of hair...a woman approached me unsolicited while I was working 2 weeks ago and said "It's so nice to see a man with great hair", and stood there smiling at me for the longest while.), and successful (I make a lot of money), and I'm nice to my wife and kids. What more could you want? Ain't I something!A couple of years ago something happened, a tall, attractive, younger woman, spoke to me in a flattering way, and I didn't respond except to deflect the compliment (and I'm not shy).What more could you want?Well, you could want someone who is faithful to their loved ones.I know that as soon as I step over that line, what the woman who is approaching me wants is gone.(one night stands are not likely to be what these women want because they meet me in a professional capacity, there is never...well it's less likely...alcohol or drugs involved when we are working, and it is always at work, and they all know I'm a rather steady and reliable sort of guy from my reputation which is quite good, so I don't think those who want one-nighters or quickies in the closet are approaching me).Step over that line, and I'm a "cheater", my reputation, my looks, my money, my height, my hair, are all secondary to my reputation as a cheater who abandoned his wife and kids for pussy.Every one of them will know for certain that if I'd done it once, I could easily do it to them.That is why it simplifies everything. If you want to date, have sex with, or marry a cheater, just get involved with a married person. That will do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): Okay maybe I needed to put in capitals NO SLANDER OR JUDGEMENTS, just stories! Some of you obviously found the question hard to comprihend! Thanks for your input but next time try reading the question before going keyboard crazy! If I asked for colours of the rainbow you wouldn't put 9 in there would u? No because that's not answering the question its merely being too lazy to read it! But thanks again- I think!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): dont know whether this counts:my brother has had a lover for 8+ years. he says he will NEVER leave his wife and kids for her.happy ending?? who knows , if the mistress is willing to settle being second best..........happy to slink away from anyone or everyone who may discover their secret???i know of a situation where both were married, left their spouses for each other.......her husband killed himself (i am sure his wife is just plain bitter) ........ living with the knowledge that you have blood on your hands.....priceless!!!!!!!!!!each to his own OP
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): hiyes i was seeing this guy for a few months until i found out that he was married. by that time i really cared about him and he cared to though at the time he was confused cause i also offered him a chance out. i broke up with him for a month then we got back together. and it was going really well a few months later i met his wife and family he has 2 kids. after 6 months things got worse in there marriage his wife had actually been cheating on him too longer then hed been cheating on her even. they split up and after a yr had a divorce its been a year later now we haven't married but i am living with him and his 2 kids cause he has custody over them i have a child too.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 A friend of mine filed for divorced after 18 years or marriage or so ,because she found out her husband had an affair ( and a baby ) with an airline hostess. He married her as soon the divorce was final. And after 6 years , and one more child, ...he dumped the second wife too. For another hostess.
The problem is that, the way you get 'em , is the way you lose 'em...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 July 2011):
 OH Person12345 you know what she means...
the happy girl... the one who goes from mistress to wife and then won't have to worry that there's a new mistress...
I agree with you that there is no way to have a fully happy ending when a marriage breaks ups
My ex husband is dying that our marriage is over. Even though he has a new partner he mourns the loss of our marriage. I get that. It's sad. thankfully there are no children that are hurting....
do married men leave their wives for their mistress? some may. MOST do not.
I left my marriage for my affair partner... but I was seeking a way out of my marriage and he just made it easier to get the marriage to end... does NOT make it a happy ending.
and then there's the whole truth that my partner worries that eventually I will tire of him and leave him the same way. He will NEVER not wonder if I would leave him for someone else newer and shinier and better... it sucks that he has to live that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): I meant to put 'happy ending' in commas as irony. I was actually calling out to women who have gotten their married men to leave their wives/men who have left their wife for their lover. Stories of cheaters who have actually followed through and gone to their lover.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 July 2011):
 I'm a little confused by what you mean. In order for an affair to have a happy ending that to me means no one ends up hurt, but if the man leaves his wife, the wife is going to wind up extremely hurt. To me that means there is no happy ending.
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