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writes:i have wrote a series of questions about this boy but im still caught up with it :(i am 15 and i like this 16 yr old boy and im still a virgin and he isnt.i have known him for about a year now and i still want to lose my virginity to him i dont know whats wrong with me.everyone is saying he is no good for me and to just leave him but I'm so confused.hes telling me that he likes me and that he will not just sex me and leave me and that he really does like me.he knows im a virgin and that i want it to be meaningful and he says it will be :Sand i know he likes me we just click in everyway.what should i do? can you answer ASAP please.
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reader, el.neumann  +, writes (8 June 2009):
I hope you really hear me when I say this:
You are a virgin RIGHT NOW. It is so great I mean, god, look at you, how GREAT IS THAT?? Right now you are a virgin, NO ONE, I mean no one can take that from you unless you're raped or you just GIVE IT AWAY.
Now I want you to think about those lost words: give it away. One day you will give it away... but when you do, that's just it. It will be done and gone. You will still have you dignity and your reasons for why you did, you will be able to tell yourself you dont regret it and you will have the chance of believing that this guy was worth it. But in the end... after all of the reasoning... your virginity will still be gone. It's so special isn't it? It's so YOURS. So now, do see how HUGE it is to give it away? It only happens once! In your lifetime! WOW!
When you give something that BIG, that valuable away, so that it is no longer yours and you can not have it back, you be serious about who you give it away to. I am SO IMPRESSED that you have come here to ask other people's advice. You are being smart. You must know this is very important.
Now I want you to think about how old you are. We live to somewhere in our 80s. From the time we are born until then, we are constantly learning and becoming smarter with our decisions. Admit it, you are a lot more wiser about the things you do now then you were as a 7 year old.
You're 15 now. You're smart for being concerned and asking advice. But do you really want your future self, from say age 21, to look back and think, "Man... I really wish it was never up to my 15 year old self to make a decision about who to give away my VIRGINITY to."???
This is the most valuable thing you own. You have to be smart about it. My opinion on this guy from what you've said is that, yeah he's probably a fairly decent guy. But does him having good qualities and clicking with you, at this age, mean he is WORTHY of that one valuable thing you own?
Think about this dear. Your decision now could blow your mind come a few years from now. You're smart now, but give your future self a chance to hold onto this valuable thing too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Nothing wrong with pleasure at your age. Just make sure its what you want
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (8 June 2009):
 It really is up to you, but please make sure when you are making it special don't forget the condom! Because I really don't think pregnancy and AIDS or some other STI are in your top 10 things to get out of loosing your virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): I've seen plenty of questions on this, and a lot of people who answer say 'if you need to ask someone else, then you're not ready'. I believe that's right - if you were ready you wouldn't have any doubt in your mind. If he likes you... why isn't he making an effort to take you out on dates... or letting it progress into a relationship with you for a while before taking it to that level? If everyone is saying he is no good for you, then they're probably right, their judgement isn't clouded like yours because you like him. So no, I don't think you should. It'll be meaningful to him - not in an emotional way though. You'll be another girl to add to his list. Whatever you decide, think about the likely outcomes of each. The main ones being:1. You say no and keep your virginity, and wait until you're in a relationship with someone who you love and who loves you, less likely to regret losing it. 2. You sleep with him anyway, and then feel used after when you find out he didn't really like you that much, and it wasn't meaningful. You wished you had kept it. If you do go down the second path, and I hope you don't, please use protection.
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reader, holikdad +, writes (8 June 2009):
15 is WAY to young to lose your virginity. If you do decide to have sex with this guy he'll be out of your life soon enough. There are not to many people who meet at 15 and stay together forever. So save it till later, and trust me a 16 year old doesn't know how to make it meaningful. He just wants the sex.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (8 June 2009):
 it's up to you hun.it's your choice.but you NEED to be carefuland MAKE sure you're doing this for you.we can't decide for you or anything but we can help you.your friends are looking out for you.if you feel he is the one then go for it but if not then don'tit's your life only you can make this decision and decide whether or not you feel it's right.hope this helps.goodluck sweety.
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reader, freddo2007  +, writes (8 June 2009):
DO NOT give him your virginity, its as simple as that 1. He's a young male who is already having sex i wouldnt trust him when he says its not just sex he really likes you, 2. you're to young. I was 15 n half n I regret it if I could of waited I would of been better off. your young and you will get alot of different feelings and you may feel left out when you start hearing people your age saying they do it but dont them doing it make you decide to. just wait til your a little bit older and im sure youll find someone else alot better and be in a relatonship with the guy first for at least several months cos once its gone its gone for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): girl i havent had sex and im 15 i havent even snogged a boy yet but i think you should just go for it, tell him how you feel. and if you feel ready to have sex with him then do. x
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