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writes:I have been married for 2 years now and my husband and i have had our share of problems, and it seems like things are the same to a point, everyday he goes to his mother's house, don't get me wrong I love my mother in law very much, she is always there for me but she can't drive so he goes and take her to the store and etc, but when his other siblings come home he goes and see them but don't know when to come home. But he feels as though I don't want him to go to his mama house, and that's not the case, one of his brothers is almost 50 and he has nothing, all he do is drink. But my husband don't see that as a problem. I know the bible says when 2 become one you leave your parents and tou cleave to your wife. Sometimes I feel he wants to be back with his mother. I have told him more than once he can leave if he feels he can't deal with things anymore, all i ask is for respect, love and to come home after work, because if i did what he did he would not like it. I cannot talk to him without him getting angry. Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, remy +, writes (16 December 2011):
remy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice, I appreciate it.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (15 December 2011):
With some men, it's show, don't tell. Instead of waiting at home for him and bringing up the subject again which makes him angry, hold a mirror in front of him by doing the same thing. When you know he's home, go out with your friends and don't let him know when you're coming back. Visit another city. Etc. When he complains sit him down and confirm he doesn't like it, upon which you tell him you feel the same way when he visits his family every day and leaves you hanging. Once that's acknowledged, set some parameters.
Why should he go to his mom every single day? If she cannot do basic things like getting groceries she should not be living on her own. Either that or she should stack up for a week. Also, these visits of him don't need to take up that much time. Basically tell him that he needs to figure out a way to divide his mom and sibling time with you because this way you don't see him at all, do you?
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