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writes:I've been really bitchy lately and its really making my boyfriend upset..its all because I've been unhappy about the place that we live in. I'm sooo fed up with our roomates! Their so filthy and lazy and they have nasty animal that they won't clean up after..I want to move out but I don't want to leave my boyfriend..how can I cope with it until I can move out?..I don't wanna b bitchy to my boyfriend anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (15 December 2011):
Well, the only solution that's going to actually work is to move out. Changing something that's ingrained into your personality is not an easy task and will not happen over night. This doesn't mean you shouldn't try to change your personality; for instance, you can be upset with your roommates all you want, but taking out this anger on your boyfriend is not okay.
But the simplest fix is to get new living arrangements. Talk to your boyfriend about the two of you moving out or about having a serious discussion with your roommates about their lifestyles.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (15 December 2011):
 It sounds like a funny topic, and maybe it is to an extent, but my stepsister is honestly no lie, in therapy, and has been now for going on 6 months, why? because she's a bitch! there's really no way to sugar coat it, or disguise it, she has a horrible demeanor pretty much by default, so bad she cannot keep a boyfriend longer then a few dates, this sounds hilarious(and believe me my family's gotten in their jabs at her)but to her it's just her personality, and when your asked to evaluate your own personality, then change it, well just try and imagine having to change who you are! pretty deep issue, which goes way beyond she's in therapy cause shes trying to learn how to not be a bitch, but in short terms, that's what it is! maybe you should look into it now! and save many relationships ahead!
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reader, rivi +, writes (15 December 2011):
Forget any ideas of changing their behavior thru discussion : it ain't going to happen.
However you do it you have to give notice the pair of you and find somewhere else - maybe in a less desirable part of town - where you can be just the two of you. Even if it's a hovel it will be more relaxed just the two of you and it's amazing what just a coat of paint and some flowers can achieve in livening up a place.
If your bf does not agree then your only option to retain sanity is get out on your own.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 December 2011):
 If you can't move out right away I would let the room mates have it for being that way then take some time to be selfish and do something for yourself and possibly your boyfriend. Even just a night at a hotel to get away would help.
A little time to yourself now and then should help calm your mood. Some physical activities would also be good to blow off some steam so it doesn't all go to your bf.
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