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writes:I need some advice, I'm unhappy but I don't know why!!I have a loving family, great friends, fantastic boyfriend, lovely car and house, I'm studying the subject I love (law) at university and I like my job. I've always had a very high standard of living thanks to my family and there has never been any major reasons for me to be unhappy but I am. I just feel like something is missing. I know I may sound really ungrateful but I desperately want to be happy. I just don't know what I can do. I've thought of counselling but I can't afford it. I think I've suffered from depression in the past but never been treated for it. Thanks
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reader, Legendless +, writes (10 January 2006):
I know that the suggestion I am about to offer is very controversial and you can take it or leave it, but it was my gut instinct when I read just the topic line of your message for help.
I do not know for sure what your religious standing or views are, but I would venture a guess that you are not a very religious person. I will have to tell you now that the times I feel most fulfilled in life is not when everything is going right, and not when I've accomplished it all, but it is when I daily acknowledge and "spend time with" God.
I'm sorry if I have offended you in any way. I know that religion is considered to be a matter of your own belief and the decision is inevitably yours to make. But if this answer has intrigued you at all, my advice to you would be to investigate these matters further.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (10 January 2006):
 Sweetie Pie is almost right.
To appreciate what is good in life it helps to have seen and felt what is bad. It's sometimes fun, too.
Ever seen someone die? Ever woken up after a 3-day drug/drink binge unable to move, with a 2-day blackout? Ever gambled your last penny at the dogs and not been able to eat the next day? Ever been beaten up when you stagger home from a club? Ever had totally nasty, filthy, one night stands and sneaked away in the morning before your "stand" woke up? Ever got a hungover "fear" so bad that the only cure you can think of is waiting outside your local bar until they open and taking a beer with chaser for medicine? Ever been to Vegas and done a stripper with a strap-on? Ever snorted coke off your boyfriend's privates? Ever got so drunk you peed your pants? Ever had a day on speed, then the next day hurt so bad you couldn't even get out of bed?
Those are just some ideas.
Maybe you need to cut loose once in a while?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2006): Sometimes something that we think is okay on the surface, isn't underneth. Maybe there is something that you listed that subconciously you are unhappy with or have an issue with.
Maybe to start with just really assess the things in your life. Maybe you are telling yourself you love something - a boyfriend, a job, study etc but deep down there is an issue there that is making you feel empty.
It may also be worth having a chat to your GP. If you are feeling a bit empty, down etc it may help to chat to a GP to ensure that you are getting enough iron etc. Sometimes being run down physically can emotionally make you feel down. Your GP can also offer advice about mental health as well, so maybe that is a place to start as well.
Take care
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reader, Sweetie Pie +, writes (10 January 2006):
It seems to me that your life is so perfect that you have become bored with your life.Why don't you have a girls night out and have a wild and exciting time instead of being a perfect angel all the time.
Hope i helped bye!
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