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writes: I'm a 20 year old male who's been in a relationship with my 17 year old g/f for about two full years now. Things in our relationship have always been pretty well but lately it just seems that we've been having trouble communicating. She has admitted to me that I've been her one true love and when we were intimate, it was her first time. I can say that I love her as well but it just feels like I'm going through the motions these days. We now have a long distance relationship and it feels like we're drifting apart, at least from my end. She is still crazy about me and loves me and I admit I love her too but it seems like I'm in a comfort zone with her. My problem is that another girl has stepped into the picture. She is a great friend who has really expressed interest in me. I care about her deeply and it feels like my communcating with her is fresh and new and exciting like my relationship used to be in the beginning. She has expressed wanting to take it to the next level and she does know about my g/f. The thought, I admit, has crossed my mind and I'm stuck between the two girls. Is it possible to love two girls at once? I have not been intimate with my friend but she wants to be, but I'd feel too guilty because of my g/f. Not to mention I feel guilty now for even really having not a b/f-g/f relationship but our friendship. I feel guilty even telling my g/f that we're even this close. If I could have it my way, I would be with both..but I know that either way it goes. I need to pick one or the other. I just don't know what to really do in this situation. Any help is appreciated. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2006): Just try to forget the other girl cause u r not sure that ur relationship can be succesful with her as ur girlfriend does to u. just forget her believe me man.. 2 years is quit boring but try to do somethings new with ur gf. However, think carefully before any step. u could lose da two girls.
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reader, lizabeth +, writes (10 January 2006):
well maybe your current relationship has just ran its course. by the sounds of things your gf will b heart broken because of you being her first love but it will kill her even more if she knows whats really going on inside your head. my advice is break with your gf because if your feeling like this its not fair on her or yourself. just say you feel your loosing communication and the pressure has got on you so much that you think your relationship has ran its course. trust me she will cry and she will be hurt but i promise you this she won't hate you. i have no advice on the other girl other than, wait at least 2 months before you go for it with her. hope ive helped xx
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reader, x Chrissy x +, writes (9 January 2006):
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torn between two,
I think that the best advice I can give you at the moment is that you need to figure out the good points and the bad points of both the relationships and how successful they might be. Remember that you have a girl that is madly in love with you and just because things arent great at the moment does not mean that they are not going to be soon.
Have you attempted to rekindle the flame or do you just want to get out of the relationship because you think that something better has come along.
You said yourself that the relationship with the new girl remindes you of your relationship at the start. So you have to choose. Do you wan to give up something that you already have a love that you already have, or do you want to take a chance and try to find a new love? but before you do make sure that you talk to your current gf about the situation.
Good Luck.
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