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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi,I need tips to help me orgasm from penatrive sex. I have never had an orgasm. My boyfriends penis size is fine, we have plenty of fore play too. I always orgasm during cunnilingus, am I too used to the thrill of oral sex maybe? Can you suggest something maybe I havent tried?Thank you
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reader, funkie_bl0nde  +, writes (6 December 2008):
hi there i couldnt orgasm till i was comfortable exploring my body with my partneri needed to tell him what i wanted and how i wanted it and when he put his fingers in side me and moved them round i realised what felt best and that was to have my partner finger me and push upwards while twisting and turning only 2 fingers around inside me while i was slightly elevated i played with my clitoris within minutes he has me squirting everywhere
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Hey,
I can't orgasm through intercourse without help. My husban says most of his flings could, but then with the amount he's practised with until finding his true love, AND the 70% failrate-- some gals were faking!
Vibrator and finger work. His finger works, if he can do all the things he's doing.
Is this your mission or his? if his, show him all the aunt's answers.
If yours, read all the answers!
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reader, schlottjl  +, writes (15 September 2007):
 God bless you for your efforts but my question would be why it mattered. You are lucky enough to orgasm at all at your age. Most women do not. It could be that you wont ever or that you wont until your sexual peak (for many women that is in their 30s).
But one thing I do know is that the orgasm one particular way is over rated. There are many different female orgasms, clitoral, g-spot apparently others that may be person specific or could be good feelings that are labled as orgasm. Sometimes women believe they orgasm until they do.
In any event, your best bet is to be absolutely relaxed, in the moment, breathing, and very into your partner and able to communicate with absolute truth.
Sometimes people put too much pressure on themselves to orgasm via penetration as if it would bring the couple closer or would validate the man. But my experience says that it pulls focus, diverts attention, makes it less likely to happen, and reduces intimacy to mechanics.
Here is a fact tidbit to ponder. There may be a very good reason that women are not wired that way. Well many actually. First , gender change Dr.s ALL agree that no mater which way the change goes, their patients agree that women have BETTER orgasms or sexual peaks and valleys and that even the flitter up and down over time (oh say 10 mins or so) is more fulfilling and more pleasurable than the standard release. Yep- all the hype about men and their sexuality is just that. Imagine the world where women have not only more pleasure and for much longer times but also on demand. We could drive men crazier and they could never keep up. I won't even go into the chemical bonding that occurs when a woman takes on his hormonal happies. You should not be taking those on yet anyway (unless you want babies now).
I heard one woman, Brenda, who was born "Bruce", liken it to men diving off a cliff with no parachute and women jumping with a hang glider. It seems that biology IS validating the intimacy if the woman is able to glide and hold while the man splats to the canyon floor. Should she never actually hit the floor but instead make it to the other side, or land on an outcropping, no worry, she can jump again. She can repeat until she tiptoes to his sleeping side. The female orgasm as we know it is more like a late parachute. Just one of many ways we ladies can get the the bottom.
Have fun and let what was meant to be- be! ;)
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (14 September 2007):
After you're fully aroused have him move up on you so that the top side of his penis rubs on your clitoris.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): have him perform oral sex on you... also find your own pace and rythm... actually sex should become more intense all the years progress.. as long as you and your partner are still attracted to each other... I've had relations with my curent girl for a long while now and it still the best expirences that we share....oh if all else fails go cold turkey for 5 times the time you and your spouse spend without sex (on average)... then make sure keeps a slow steady pace make sure he get you worked up for without penitrating hold out long as you can then when you can't take it anymore take him haves it a lil a time... oh if he don't wanna listen got get the biggest most expesenive vibrator you can handle and jus have you own pleasures while he gets to only watch believe me... when a man don't get his then his for then he has to tak it slow and get his woman off or else.... he'll make sure you won't regret any second of it... and remember it not about getting of it about getting to be with the only person you truely love
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Have you tried being on top? I find it is the only way I can orgasm.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Hey sweetess,
Well... as all the other aunt's have said, a little clitoral simulation will help you push yourself over the edge. I find the ol' "reach around", works - just use your own finger to pleasure yourself while he's penetrating. This usually works best with doggy style.
OR, go ahead and get yourself a vibrator! Let me tell you, sister, I hooked myself up with one and the bedroom has never been the same! My boyfriend loves it too! The vibrations are fun for all parties involved. Vibrators come in so many shapes and sizes - I suggest getting a "bullet" or a "rabbit". Something that can fit comfortably on you during sex.
I wish you the best of luck. the most important thing is to have a lot of fun and laugh a lot during sex. Some things you try might work, some may not, but the fun is experimenting!!
Enjoy!
xxIndia
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reader, kindone +, writes (13 September 2007):
 masterbate and have him use a toy on you i cant orgasm either during sex good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Try girl on top. The angle works better for me because I can manipulate the head of his penis to rake across my clit with each thrust. Also doggie-style works well if you keep your tits on the sheets his penis should be able to rub against your "spot" and create an awesome orgasm. It's really all about being in tune to your body. If that doesn't work, try oral sex or just fingering works well too. Have fun!
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female
reader, hlskitten  +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Hi
Good luck with that. 70% of women wont orgasm through penatrative sex alone. Its no biggie. Keep trying for fun, dont pin too much emphasis on it though ey.
C xxxxx
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reader, xxmissxx +, writes (13 September 2007):
 While hes penetrating you, use your own finger to stimulate the clitoris.
This is not only pleasure for you, but is also a turn on for him.
also try having intercourse while your on all fours.
This makes it easier for the penis to grind the apparant G-Spot, while stimulating your clitoris aswell.
Have Fun!
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