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writes:The guy i love is 19.. and i'm 15. Ive known him ages and we can tell each other anything, and he always makes me smile,then recently he told me he likes me to. He quit his job to come back to live near me.But hes going to University so we decided to not get together. Shall i try and get over him and the age thing or wait?Also his mate asked me out.. he is 18 and not going to uni. I turned him down but he keeps asking and hes getting obsessive now, its scares me. He tells his mates im his girlfriend and i don't know how to get him to stop without being nasty!?Then theres my best mate whos my age, who i love as a mate but nothing more, who told me he loved me. He knows about the older guy but still wants me. Shall i go for it with him or How do i let him down gently?THEN.. theres another lad, whos loads of fun, hes my age and hes told me he likes me aswell.(arghh!!) I like him loads but then i don't trust him. I kissed him for hours the other night ... what shall i do with him?!Someone help me! It confuses me and my mates! I Haven't got a clue what to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHeys
Cheers for the help, yeah i get confused on all this stuff... its all happend in like, a week and im not used to it all :S
I sound like a right slag by all this lol.. i dnt get why its all happened now but im taking the option of no relationship.. so much easier.
xxx thanks xxx
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (24 September 2007):
 you should take a time out.
don't kiss someone for hours that you don't trust.
the 19 year old's gone to uni, he'll be meeting new girls, his age and although he did like you, he'll have moved on.
the 18 year old, yu should run a million miles in the opposite direction because obsessiveness is the most unattractive quality to have, that he has lied to everyone that you are together already so i wouldn't even begin a relationship there, and you need to explain that he has to stop spreading lies because people will soon realize your not together.
and do you want to risk loosing your best friend by starting something with him even though you don't feel attracted to him in that way? it'll hurt him in the end.
you need some space and although attention is always flattening, why the urgency to have a boyfriend at all, you should wait and then when the right guy comes along, there won't be a decision to make, you'll just know.
good luck.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (24 September 2007):
 This is a hard situation but in the end its your decision,but i have to say the 18year old who says your his girlfriend seems a little possesive and slightly creepy and i could see if you got together he could be very controlling,and the 19year old going to uni seems really sweet moving to be with you but maybe you should see how he finds uni before getting together because i think it would be hard to have a relationship while he is so busy with uni work. Amd with your best mate ive been thorugh it before so just tell him you would rather be friends and not risk your friendship because you need your friends more then a boyfriend and if you dont trust the other guy dont even think about it without trust there is no relationship, just go with your heart.
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reader, cupidhelper  +, writes (24 September 2007):
Hey,
it's great to have options, but another option is not to date anyone. Or to late everyone know you're own right now & date everyone. Just let everyone INCLUDING YOURSELF, know how far you want to go. Kissing is great, but doing more with 19 year-old can get them arrested.
getting worked up by 19 years and then dating someone else will either make you mean and a user or someone who regret not dating one guy and waiting for the right time.
tell you parents about the scary 18 year old. He's not you mate. Tell the 19 year old, you're not dating him and you're scared that he keeps saying you are-- that way your friend will not accidently bring this scary guy to hang out with you.
Do not confront him, taunt, him, or address him. have you parents confront him. It seems powerful to have a guy like yo that much, but there's a reason we call those people "stalkers"-- don't play games. he can hurt you. Don't be flattered by unwanted attention-- it's unwanted.
Said to say, but true, there's still a terrible double standard. So if you want to date a few people, be prepared for some name calling. If you go further than kissing, the names get worse. Remember you're in high school and these reps never die, so you might want to be closer to graduation or college-age before you juggle a lot of potential boyfriends. it's your right, but the world; especially High School world isn't fair.
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 September 2007):
 I think you need to take a deep breath. There will always be many to choose from, and you don't have to do it all right now. You seem like a double charged energizer bunny. Take your time, make your decisions carefully, but remember those you don't trust, there's a reason you do not have trust for them, they would not make a good person to date. Other than that, It's your choice who you want to date.
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