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writes:Im Pregnant..For the past 3 months i have been sleeping with several different guys, six.. two of them are teachers in my school.. usually i stay behind to do "coursework" but always turns into something else.. i have recently found out im pregnant and i am not sure who the dad is.. i have had unprotected sex with most of the boys and men on different occasions.. and i am not sure whether to keep the baby..What do you think i should do.. i need help!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): I will keep the baby, because i layed down and make that choice. You can take and DNA test to find the daddy or leave its alone and raise the baby yourself. You can go on home school and finish ur school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2007): Its up to you if you want to keep it, but if the baby ends up to be one of the teacher's, can you really handle the critisisum from your peers at school. Also if you have the baby, when you turn 18 everyone will be out drinking and having fun while your home looking after your child. you have soooo many great years ahead.
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reader, aiza  +, writes (29 April 2007):
 keep the baby...babies are a blessing regardless who the father is...i know it might sound easy but it sure is difficult dont get me wrong raising a child.But im sure its all worth it at the end of the day when you look into your childs eyes and as they grow older you'll be glad to have been apart of it. This baby is a blessing to you take with both hands.
take care in whatever you decided
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): keep the baby. they are precious gifts from God. get the men dna tested after you deliver. and go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): Get yourself checked out at a clinic to see whether you have caught any STIs. As for the pregnancy you need to discuss your situation and options with a trusted adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): The only thing that I have to say, is that although everyone makes mistakes... you should face the consequences. Its not a good idea to take a life to save your pride. Think of the innocent child that you are carrying. He or she deserves life just as much as you do.
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reader, Keria +, writes (27 April 2007):
Just to clarify, when I said not to take the advice of people on here, I meant specifically as to whether you keep the baby. But you SHOULD take my advice that you speak to your doctor. Another option though, is to go to a sexual health clinic and talk to them. They will have good listening ears, and be able to talk to you more about the situation, and will be much more helpful than a bunch of idiotic judgemental, and hypocritical people on here.
Take care, and look after yourself.
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reader, NuttyGooner +, writes (27 April 2007):
 Oh dear oh dear, I'm going to get off of my moral soapbox here, because berating you is not going to help. This is more than just a dilly of a pickle.
First things first, are you sure you are pregnant? Periods don't normally settle down until your 18ish (I know mine were all over the shop until I was 19 - they started when they were 11!), next get yourself checked out by a GUM clinic, they are perfectly confidential and free for people under the age of 21. It's not just for your health but if you do choose to keep this baby, it will show something up and it can get cleared ASAP, STDs have very nasty effect on unborn babies! You can find this on the NHS website, and it will put you in touch with your nearest clinic.
I would suggest talking to an adult or teacher you trust (just not one of the 2 you slept with), someone who does know you and could advise you appropriately, if you kept the baby and told your mother, she would be extremely disappointed in finding out the circumstances how you found yourself pregnant. If you kept the baby, you will need support from the father, so your 2 teachers will be found out one way or another as they will need to be tested by the CSA. If you had an abortion that would be advoided, just keep clear of teachers okay? It is against the law for a teacher to sleep with a pupil under the age of 18, despite the legal age of consent being 16.
Next time use protection with a guy you truly care about, and who in turn cares about you.
Good luck, in whatever you choose to do!
Nutty xxx
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (27 April 2007):
 hun really it's up to you listen to your heart
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reader, Keria +, writes (27 April 2007):
Don't take the advice of people on here who don't know anything about you. You need to talk to your doctor and to your family.
And in future, it's not a good idea to sleep around with teachers when you are only 16. You could get them fired, in the newspapers, and without a family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): Hi there,
Is there an adult, maybe your mum or someone you are close and trust that you can talk to? Like Kenny mentioned it is important you book yourself in to a sexual health clinic and be checked for any STDs as these can be harmful to you and your pregnancy. You also have options to discuss such as Abortion (abortion pill if you arrange it early enough), adoption or motherhood. I think if you can share this with an adult you trust then you will feel a little better. The question of whether or not you should terminate or keep the baby though is the hardest question of all, but unfortunately only you can make the decision. You might get 100 opinions from people but none of them will really help you make that choice as it is a choice that has to be right for you and only you. All the best with whatever decisions you make over the coming weeks and months.
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reader, NJmomabear  +, writes (27 April 2007):
 Count about 14 days back from your last menstral period and that is most likely the father. You should definately not keep the baby at all. Someone who behaves this way is not mentally fit to be a parent. You will just pass the behavior problems onto your child.
And these teachers have families who depend on them I bet...they could go to jail. You have the power to ruin so many peoples lives, starting with your own. Your doing a great job so far! No matter where you go I'm sure you'll do the same.
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reader, kenny +, writes (27 April 2007):
 You were having unprotected sex with six guys, so the likellhood of you falling pregnant were somewhat high. I woulden't go ahead with this pregnancy, as you don't even know who the father is anyway, and would they stand buy you?.
While you are at it i would also get tested for other sexually transmitted diseases you may have picked up, including HIV just for peace of mind.
Good luck x
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reader, xx_teen_help_xx +, writes (27 April 2007):
WELL...its your choice weather you feel now is the time to have a baby with your coursework and school work. if your not goign to have a relationship with theese people and you will bringing the child up on its own then really no i dont think you should keep the baby. but if you feel your strong engough and take a dna test to find the father and would have a realtionship. its entirally up to you. !!
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