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writes:Okey i really need help im 13 nearly 14 and i think im pregnant.the last couple of times me and my boyfirnd had sex we did not use protection as he pulled out before he came so i thought it would be okey but now im realy worried because i have skipped one of my periods which has never happend before and i am due to come on another but havent yet i am so scared because if i was my mum would kill me literally. And i cant have a kid at my age i kno i was irresponible but i thought guys had to cum inside girls to get pregnanti need help!! please i will be so greatfull for any replys Thank You x
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reader, Dalmatian  +, writes (16 May 2009):
Who says he did not cum inside you ? Boys lie all the time.
He could have done some inside you and some outside.
You would never really know at the time. He would not want
to upset you because you might not let him do it again.
Get a pregnancy test and find out.
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reader, morgan5885 +, writes (15 May 2009):
well first off you're thirteen. you definatly should not be having sex. but assuming you have gotten that talk before (because it's right, you really should not be having sex at thirteen because chances are you'll get pregnant or an std before you're eighteen) i wont get into that. You could be pregnant, but you could just as easily not be. it's completely normal for a thirteen to fifteen year old girl to skip periods.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Heyy ... yeh the only thing you can do is go and buy a pregnancy test... make sure your boyfriend does the test with you so your not on your own (if your boyfriend loves you enough to have sex then he will atleast be there for the result) You need to larn a bit more about sex before you have it because boys leak before they cum and anyway he might not have taken it out fast enough... doing that isnt a contraceptive.
The way i see it is that your only ready to have sex when you can tlk to your mum about it and you cant... your mum will have to accept the fact youre having sex because if you are you cant turn back time and you'll need your mum to be there for you. just make sure you tell your boyfriend as well you need as much support as you can get.
Mail me what happens would like to know how things turn out x
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Go buy a fast response pregnacy kit. Make sure you READ the instructions CLEARLY. If it shows up as negative, you should STILL get an appointment with your doctor.
The sooner you know the sooner you can either start the PRENATAL care or abortion. 12 weeks is usually the cut of time for abortion. I know it's not something nice to think of but you need to know that is you ARE pregnant you can not just close your eyes and wish it away.
Whomever got you pregnant ( if you indeed are pregnant) needs to be there with you and he needs to know.
You got a LOT of replies explaining that you can get pregnant even if he doesn't cum inside you. That is true. Don't have sex at ANY age with out protection. Pregnancy isn't the only thing they can prevent.
Take that test. Tell your mom if you ARE pregnant. YOU will need the support. And quite frankly you need to get an earful anyways - having sex at 13. Sex isn't a game.
Let us know what the test said.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 What more advice do you want? We can't tell you if you're pregnant or not, and if you are we can't tell you which choice is the best for you. We can only let you know that you need to get a pregnancy test and take it. You'll know if you're pregnant or not after you do.
You also need to be tested for STD's, and yes you can get them even if he doesn't finish inside of you. Some of them can even kill you, or make it so you can't have kids.. so you need to be checked asap.
Start using condoms, though they're not 100%, they're sure as hell better than nothing.
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reader, pebble +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Sweetheart, no one is going to tell you anything different from 'get a test' or 'go to a doctor and ask for a test', because that's the only to find out for sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): yur 13 and yuve had sex omg im 13 most of tyhe ppl at my school havent even gone futher than kissed a guy/girl at my school at tht ageget a pregnancy test coz u cud be pregnant
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Hi,
You can get pregnant without him climaxing inside of you - just from the precum alone.
Go get a kit from a chemist - check where you are in the cycle, pee and wait.
If its negative - go to the doctor - to try and understand why your periods are out.
If its positive - go to the doctor so he can get proper 100% proof tests done.
talk to a sensible adult - preferably mum, but an aunt or someone you are close to will do.
Good luck!
Star.x.
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reader, Pyro_Dimples +, writes (15 May 2009):
 You shouldn't have been having sex if you were that acknowledgeable on the subject. you are only 13?? Come on sweetie, there is plenty of time for all that stuff. Go get a test and if it's positive then your going to have to tell your mother. Sorry to tell you but it's true. You need to talk to your boyfriend now! Tell him what's going on and maybe have him get the test if your scared to. this isn't something you want to let go though. You need to tend to it right away. Best of luck sweetheart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Dont you get taught sex education at school?
Look the facts are that there is such a thing called pre cum, this means that before the male reaches his peak and cums some cum has already leaked out so pulling out does not work.
I would advise you to go to your Dr's for a pregancy test because you are so young your Dr will be able to advise you on a few things, they can be very helpful and save you the problem of having to get money for a test. Alternatively you can go to any family planning clinic (it does not have to be your local one) and get free pregancy testing too along with some advise.
I am not qualified to tell you your medical condition but it does sound like you have a risk of being pregnant. Do not panic seek help there is plenty of it out there. You have made a mistake but it is not the end of the world it can be dealt with.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Just type 'Am I Pregnant?' into the search box above.
Stock answer - get a test kit or see your GP's practice nurse for a test, and tell your mother. Tell your boyfriend too - why should you be the only one to worry?
Mothers are usually quite supportive and understanding. She might blow a gasket at first, but your mother won't 'literally' kill you, she'd get done for murder or manslaughter at best, however she might have a word or two of common sense to put in your ear instead. One would hope that she sees the fact that you're sexually active and gets you on the pill and offers some commonsense advice on the whole subject.
Penis + vagina = pregnancy sooner or later. That's what the Good Lord designed them for, as well as a bit of fun and games. There won't be much fun and games for you if you are pregnant, though you won't be the first or last to find yourself in this situation. If you're not pregnant, at least you'll learn something from this experience.
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reader, Danii-N-Dale +, writes (15 May 2009):
Danii-N-Dale is verified as being by the original poster of the question Arrgh im so scared
i need more advise
please ??
Help
Love Danielle xx
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reader, bobbles32 +, writes (15 May 2009):
You probably could be pregnant, go to the store and pick up a home test.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Yes it is ninetynine percent probable as didn't you know that there's pre cum!!!! And periods come every 28 days approx which means that it's probably two late to have an abortion.
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reader, SexDrive1ohhh1  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 hmmm, if you play with fire, you get burn't.
It definately sounds like you are pregnant. Get a home test before you tell anyone. Then if you are, tell your mom. The same happened with someone i know, and she also thought her mom would kill her, but her mom was very supportive. Please, whatever you do - dont go for an abortion. There are alot of alternatives. Adoption, etc. If you arent pregnant - then STOP having sex! you are far too young! You should be enjoying your teen years...
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