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writes:Hi everyonesometimes I feel like I'm going to be single forever!!!I'm 28 and just broke up with my girlfriend 8 months ago...(long story)...since then I've become so depressed...now I'm very cautious about my relationships and have some kind of fear of what's gonna happen next.I'm seeing a few girls but most of them are younger than me and when they find out I'm 28 they just try to avoid me. well I feel like they think I'm going to ask them for going out and when they see it in my eyes they just panic and that's the time I try not to talk at all! but it's so hard cuz I'm a sociable person...and to me being alone means like I'm dead.when I go out with my friends they always keep questioning me about finding a girlfrind...it's the most annoying question that I don't have any answer to it!I don't know if anyone here have the same feeling or not?I was really in love with my ex-girlfriend and since our break up my life has become upside down. it's such a miserable life without a partner...I need someone to guide me through this please...GOD knows I've tried my best but it just doesn't work!
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reader, Answerthis  +, writes (14 April 2009):
Relationships are like Lego's... you won't find the piece your looking for until you stop looking. It is normal to feel lonely, and to have doubts about the future when one ends a serious relationship. And be honest with yourself, but your still getting over your previous break-up. Take the time to do something productive, and heal up properly, because no matter how important it is to really deal with the pain (and it is), no girl is interested in a guy with emotional baggage.Do things you've been putting off: See some old friends, hit the gym, learn that language you've always wanted to... whatever. At the end of the day, you'll be occupied by better things than feeling sad, and be an improved, more interesting person as well.Unless you are omitting important information, like the 11th toe sprouting from your forehead (in which case you'd have my sympathy), I'm sure your not doomed to be single forever, just sad for a while.Lastly, stay single until you believe you've moved on. You wouldn't want a gf who's still hung up on an ex, would you? And approach girls as you would a friend, forget any alternate motive at first at least,it will take a lot of pressure off of you.Good luck man, hope I could help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): Hey.. firslty im sorry that you broke up with your girlfriend thats hard to take no matter how old you are. Listen, you are only 28.. that isnt really old at all. People are single in their 40s and 50s and still find a partner to share the rest of their life with. I am 25 and my gf has just left me after 4 years and it really is hard to take. I also feel like sometimes i may never find someone again as i am quite selective. But the truth is if you make the effort then you will meet that special someone. Whether its in 10 months or 10 years, sooner or later it will happen. In the meantime try to not make finding a partner your priority in life just enjoy other things and then when your least expecting it someone will come along.. take comfort in knowing that.all the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): Cheer up your not going to be single forever. I don't know how young these girls are but try going for a girl 24 & up. Its not the end, just the being; Some people are looking for a serious relationship some people just want a good time. I think you should wait on the serious part and try to enjoy life as a single man. Then you will find that girl you connect with & hopefully it goes your way.
I hope this help some, goodluck.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 look you need to stop looking at being alone as being dead that;s why you won't get anywhere.just chill out have some fun.you won't be alone forever!just you and your ex weren't meant to be but you will find the one you are meant to be with soon enough but just relax don't try to rush things when it happens it will happen!you'll know when it happens like!!but you don't help yourself when you look at being alone as being dead.yeah well it doesn't help your friend pressuring you to get a girlfriend asking you constantly to find oneif you don't want too then don'tjust take it as it comes.enjoy life.you don't want to worry about being alone.and you won't be forever!"it'll come along when you least expect it.
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