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*arkDee
writes:Hello there, First off I love the site. It gives people a chance to give constructive advise.I have been with my current bf for 2years. We have known each other for 10. Him and his ex girlfriend have been broken up for over 3 years. Here is a bit of the history: They were together for almost 7 years (now I wont take the fact away that they shared a great deal for so long) and in the 7 years he bought 2 dogs. Now she thinks it is her right to see the dogs when ever she pleases (like sharing custody of a child almost).Now my question is this. If he bought the dogs with his money and she phones, texts, emails him when ever she feels fit to see "her" dogs, does it make it right? It seems like she can not let go of him. I am a woman and I know how our minds work. The girls he dated after they broke up did not last long as they could not put up with his exes cr@p. Me on the other hand.. I love him dearly and dont really want to share him or our lives with a psycotic ex who calls me all sorts of names and phones at funny hours of the day. She gets away with this and he does not put his foot down. Does this perhaps mean that he can not let go of what they had for so long???
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reader, DarkDee +, writes (15 April 2009):
DarkDee is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the answers guys. He is polite but yet when he feels someone or he is being treated unfairly he speaks up. I dont know why he doesnt with her. She has the run of the mill. I hava asked him about it and voiced that it bothers me and he just answers that I'm the only one who has a problem with her and that I knew what the deal was when I entered into this relationship. I think that she will always use the dogs as an excuse to be part of our lives.
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reader, Answerthis +, writes (14 April 2009):
Unless this woman is a total Dr Dolittle pat every animal in sight type of person, I'd tag her b*tch. Because then she is trying to stir.That's not the question though.I think if she is acting unreasonable, and he is indulging her knowing this, then you might have cause for concern. Because then he is letting her, knowing that it is unfair towards you. He might also be a very polite person. (I can't say, don't know him.)Tell him it has gone far enough. You don't want her to write off the dogs, just respect the relationship. If he can't put his foot down, and at least have her respect your boundaries, then I think you have your answer...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): ask him, gently but firmly. Tell him it worries you, and you see it as just an excuse on her part to keep interfering in your relationship and snoop around. If she calls you names etc then it's up to him to put a stop to it (and he would if he cares for you)
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