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writes:is being female of 30 years old + bad thing and being single because i dont i'll ever get a boyfriend i live in a rural town where is absoulty nothing going on but the weather.i feel past sell by date.i feel there is no body there for me.i find when you reach certain age that no guy would because i am not in my 20s any more.i feel blokes unreasonable being shallow and ageist against ladies.i find there there always looking for some one younger themselves like 10 years younger and more physical fit and beautiful looking and tall like model not aging lady like my self who nothing but rejection since i was teen and my 20s nothing but rejection i feel its even worse now for the standards are gone so high and aging is NO NO FOR LADIES no shallow smart remarks and no cold remarks .no smart comments either Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): well that would almost count me out... sigh.
Ok so if a guy is looking for a younger model - if one was older than you would that count?
I think you need to meet people - joining clubs and do things (sports, wlaking, reading, art night classes etc) - don't mope that is not a good club to be in. Online helps, but no substitute for the real thing.
ageing is mostly in your head (or your body really) if you act like a grumpy 70 year old, people will treat you like that. If you act like a cool hippy chick of 20 people will treat you like that.
I think you are great and have all capabilities to find someone who is into you - have faith and go looking (actually don't look - as it will tend to hide) find someone who is into you,
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): Maybe a course in positive thinking or self-esteem would help you.
Don't go thinking 30 is old, there are people of 60+ out there still finding someone.
Have you tried the internet?
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reader, jayne_staaa +, writes (21 May 2009):
you should try getting to know people online, avoid sleazy sites, and get to know the people really well and then maybe invite them for a coffee might be a good option for you with you living in such a rural area. But you shouldn't feel so down about yourself, confidence is the sexiest thing in my opinion about a person. i think alot of men are intimidated by strong powerful women who are sensible and have amazing careers, and some men want women that are younger so they can mould into a certain type of woman. i blame this all on are patriarchal society even women are at it circling magazines saying who's got wrinkles its absoloutely ridiculous. love yourself before you even start to consider dating.
i hope i could help
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reader, garcypher +, writes (21 May 2009):
It could be that there is a low population were you live and not many single people around as there is in big towns or cities. 30+ isn't old. It nothing to do with your age. There is genrally a few years difference with couples, men being older. Maybe because of the lack of potencial partners where you live you could do better by trying the adds in the local newspapers or the interne to broaden your horizons.
Don't be defeatest or put yourself down when you do meet someone, people get that persona from you and it puts them off. Show confidence and be more optimistic.
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