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writes:I was just wondering if my ex gf in a rebound relationship. We were together a year and 3 weeks after she was in another relationship...Here r some weird signs I've noticed...1. She never talks about her new bf to her friends, but talks about me nearly everytime this one friend sees her. 2. She hasn't told her bf anything about her parents divorce (the thing that is effecting her the most). 3. Its clearly she never said much about me to him, coz when I've seen Them out she's been away from him and he doesn't even realise who I am!4. When asked by mutual friend "Is she happy" my exs bestfriend/roommate said "? Dunno". 5. When my ex and her bf r out she spends no time with him and he stands on his own on the side lines...but when she was with me, I'd be off with my Mates and she'd be with her and come and find me every 10 mins lol. Is this a rebound relationship? Please don't tell me to move on, I know I need to, just curious coz my ex is acting so weird!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): You're obviously not "just curious". You're hoping she'll take you back but that doesn't look likely.
Like you said, you need to move on so that's what you should be concentrating on.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 Yes, she's trying to move on from what you two had by dating another guy.
What does it matter though?
The thing is that she's moved on (or trying to move on) so you have very little chance of convincing her to get back together. It's also not healthy for you to continue to obsess over her and her current relationship status. So either take a risk and try to get her back or follow suit and move on as well.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (19 April 2011):
 I'm 99.9% certain the answer to this question is yes. She doesnt talk about him and she doesnt confide in him and she doesnt seem to exactly relish his company so, yes you can rest assured on that one. However, and here I am in at least partial agreement with dirtball, in that I think the real issue is why does this matter? What are the issues you havent resolved? However, I think its a wee bit harsh to expect you to move on just like that. I understand where your coming from because I think when somebody moves on so quick it casts a reflection back on the past as much as it matters in the present. Did she really care, you ask yourself, if she could hook up with somebody else so quick. Could she have just gone off on a whim when we were together? The answers to both these are mostly, not always mind, yes and no respectively. Yes because people deal with pain in a different way (and she may have been making the journey to being over it before the relationship ended, especially if she decided it should end) so she set off on her recovery before you did and that explains the difference. The second question is no because context matters and its wrong to forget that. I think you need to follow this up and tell us the circumstances of the break up and your feelings over it so we can help with that because thats the real issue. Good luck and take care.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 April 2011):
 Possibly. She doesn't sound that into him. The thing is, it doesn't matter. Let her live her life and don't seek meaning in her actions. If you know you need to move on, why are you obsessing over her new relationship?
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