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writes:I am 4 weeks pregnant. I discoved this on New Years Eve. When I told my then boyfriend he was very excited. I havent heard from him in 4 days. He wont answer my calls, he took me off his FB (how childish is that?). I texed him and asked him to just sign his rights over once the baby is born, so I don't have to worry about stressing out myself and my baby in the future. Growing up, my father was involved when it was convenient for him. I dont want that for my kid. It hurts.---- He said No. If he doesnt want the kid why not just let go and be gone? Reply to this Question
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (8 January 2010):
Tell him that his silence in the last fee days have made you feel abandoned. Ask him why he is doing this?
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reader, unappeciatied +, writes (8 January 2010):
unappeciatied is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys. I have never been in this position before nor I did I plan it.Through text He says that he is not ready and wants me to abort. I will be 27 in a couple of weeks and time stops for no 1. I have a growing life inside my tummy and I plan to love and cherrish what God has blessed me with( even though I am still a bit suprized). It seems as though I may be kinda hard on him and maybe he does just need some time. But If he wants me to abort, what difference does it make? I don't believe in child support and I am financially stable and educated with my own business and all. i just wish things were different. I would have never in a million years thought I would be in this situation. I really appreciate this site ans your responses.
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reader, shortbabygirl07 +, writes (8 January 2010):
They say women become mothers when they get pregnant and men become fathers when they see their child for he first time, If it is stressful for you to deal with him, don't. The only worry you have is you and your babies health. If he cant be a positive aspect in your life, then keep in mind that your baby feels what you do. Allow him some space to adjust to the idea, its not fair but hes got alotta growing up to do
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reader, Sexualhealthadviser  +, writes (7 January 2010):
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i feel for you a lot, i think everyone is right you should just give him a chance the news may have been excitting to him but also hit home that he has to grow up now and become a adult with responsibilities, he may just feel scared and this is normal but he should you should work together and listen to eachothers feelings and fears. you should text him and tell him how you feel and that please get back to you in his own time but to take you into concideration. i hope everything goes well
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (7 January 2010):
 dont signh over your rights get child support. chilldren at that age dont care if dady is around or not if you dont make a big deal the kid wont
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 January 2010):
He's panicked and doesn't' know what to do. Clearly he's not a good boyfriend, but as the post below says, give him a little time to come around, and he might make a good Dad.
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (7 January 2010):
 I agree with marieclaire. Give him a chance to be a father, but don't get back together with him, unless he really REALLY makes some changes to the way he's reacting to this pregnancy. ( and changes for you and the baby in general) It could be that the pregnancy has just scared him, and that he will eventually grow some balls and man up before the baby comes. But to take off his facebook because you told him you were pregnant? Pretty childish. I know if I were a man and had gotten a woman pregnant, that certainly wouldn't be the first thing on my mind. But give him a chance to be a daddy. Sometimes all men have to do is hold the baby once he/she is born and it changes their whole perspective on the world, so don't assume he will just be a "drop in dad" or as you say be there when its convenient for him. (I know you are uncetain because your father was that way, my father was that way too, but give him the benefit of the doubt and let him try.)
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