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writes:I am a virgin and yes I'm aware of protection and wait till you're ready. I am ready now and I'm going to be in a relationship soon with a boy who's kind of on the big side.I wondered what kind of things am I going to have to do.. as I'll have to be in control most of the time. Just be nice to have somebody who has experience with larger men.thanks a lot. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): Please make sure he know that is your first time. I don't tell my bf that I was a virgin due to I was 24 that time. He is very near to 9" and very thick. I felt like my vagina stretch beyond its limit and split into 2. I almost cry out in pain but have to control it in order not to let him know I was a virgin. It hurt a lot during as well and lucky me come very fast.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 Ugh! I have been with a large man, but not on my first time. This may be uncomfortable to say the least. I found sex with my ex, who was quite large was never really enjoyable. There is a point where being big is not a plus. Tell him to go s-l-o-w. Make sure you are aroused and wet otherwise you'll never be able to enjoy it. Relax and just let things happen naturally.
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reader, DeadEyeDick  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 How do you know he's on the big side? if your a virgin, It's not going to matter what size he is, it's going to either way, just make sure you take some lube if he's that big! but as far as your question goes, no, i dont have any experience with larger guys!
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reader, Redd_Extacy +, writes (8 January 2010):
 Girl lol My boyfriend is HUGE! Ijust recently lost my virginity to him.Although we didn't use protection I'm glad you will choose to use one because I did have a little scare lol but anyway,sex for the first time is only very painful if you make it.do not rush it because if you're not sexually aroused then it will be painful..Also lubricant helps as well.it helps the penis slide in easier.there will also be pain if you are afraid because your muscles inside your pussy will tighten up making it harder for a penis of his size to slide through which causes ripping.tell him to take it slow and you should just relax and think of how good it will feel.it waz ok soon as my boyfriend got it all the way in.Now,I enjoy having sex with him...I hope everything works out for you and him :)
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reader, mai mai : D +, writes (8 January 2010):
im not shure if your worried about getting crushed, or just the all in all sex, if your warried about getting crushed then all you can do is trust him or if your still not shure then you could just try being on top but be cerfull if he has a big you no what then it can hert.
if your warried aout the all in all sex with him, then he might be better than you think but if you realy love him then it shouldent matter.
ps if he loves you he should go jentle if not and hes just after the sex, it might not be so jentle.
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reader, shortbabygirl07 +, writes (8 January 2010):
Relax. Take it slow, i have one word that will mean the world to you! LUBE!! If you and the guy care alot about each other then take things slow, work up to the size. I know it sounds dirty but foreplay has alot to do with your comfort as well as getting aroused. Idk if you have a vibrator, but you should invest in one. Any form of stretching your vagina before intercourse is a good idea. My partner and I "play" around for awhile, He is a larger man...down there (roughly 8-9") Im a pretty petite girl. Just take it slow, make sure he knows your a virgin! its a experience you dont want to ruin just because he doesnt know he needs to be gentle.
Heres a website that might help you out in that department.
http://sexuality.about.com/b/2009/11/10/new-research-on-lubricant-use-during-intercourse.htm
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reader, ashaseth01  +, writes (7 January 2010):
By larger men, Do you mean he has a large body or a large penis. I assume you are saying he has a large penis. Dont worry about that. A vagina can stretch to accommodate any size. If he has a large body, you will have to explore positions that do not include you getting crushed under him. Experiment. :) Why do you have to be in control all the time?? The best thing about sex is the power someone has over you. It feels amazing to give in.
Personally, my husband is huge. I can not handle his weight over me. But that makes for interesting positions. And the first time I saw his penis I was a virgin. I was as scared as you. I told him there was no space in there for that. Sorry :)
But everything turned out fine. I am happily married and loving it.
Hope I was able to help
All the best
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