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anonymous
writes:I had sex with my boyfriend spontaneously and unplanned for the first time. We were both virgins and i mean it was bad sex because it hurt and nothing really happened... we both weren't ready and i think we both regret it... but ever since then.... Things have been different... he's great but like I feel less attracted to him than before and i thought we'd be closer and our relationship would be even better than it was but its gone a little downhill and I dont know what to do because I really like this guy. any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): hi well i read your concern and i can say that you should sit down and talk about it. i think that you should be open and honest to him as he deserves that exleast, maybe you could move on and try again by doing this you will both become more closer and attractive to each other. dont worrie this can sometimes take a while but time is a vertue. my advise would be simply ingage in oral sex before have full on intercourse. REMEMBER sex isn't what you should feel for someone, feelings shouldnt change just because your partner aint that amazing in bed it's what you feel inside for each other. sex can be worked on in time. good luck
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reader, ashaseth01  +, writes (7 January 2010):
Dont worry. Sex is never pleasant the first time. It will get better with practice. But you have to talk to your partner. Both of you feel confused and vulnerable. Confide in each other.. You will feel much better.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 January 2010):
It's because you're not talking about it to each other. You think you weren't ready, and you think that you regret it. You need to open up and tell him that it was something that happened, and that perhaps it was unplanned it. Don't tell him you regret it or that you didn't enjoy it, because that will hurt him. But get talking to him again. If you don't, it will become so awkward that you won't be able to fix it. Talk.
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