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writes:hi, umm so i found out a few weeks ago that me and my husband are going to have a baby, and i'm really excited but the only problem is that he's christian and i'm catholic. were both stressing out because we don't know what to raise our child, christian or catholic. my question here is if your husband is christian and the wife is catholic, what does the baby come out ?? thanks for the people taking their time reading this and i really do appreciate it. please be specific, thanks =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Nowhere in the bible does it say what sect of Christianity you have to be a member of. If I were you, I'd be more concerned about teaching him the word of god instead of what traditions and rituals to follow, which is what church essentially is. You should be a better christian and study the word of god and then you'll know what you have to do.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 I would leave it up to your child to decide. Does it really matter in the long run? I was brought up catholic and now i'm an atheist. Let you child decide when it's older. It may choose no religion, which is great isnt it? A world without religion? Now that's awesome!
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reader, noonespecial2  +, writes (23 July 2009):
Hi there,Great question!!!I guess the baby would have to be baptised into a religion determined by you, your husband and the faith you both choose and until this happens the baby would belong to neither faith. Firstly, I'd discuss this with your husband. This will need to be a decision you both agree on. Raising a child is a mammoth responsibility and as all Parents we want what's best for them and above all we hope for their happiness. Personally, I believe that happiness evolves from clarity about who you are, liking and valuing yourself, accepting yourself as imperfect and having courage to be yourself. So in saying that, my priority and main focus as a Parent are these things. For me, religion maps out an idea of how one should be, this prevents individuality. I also find that when these ideas are not lived up to, there can be judgements and punishments used as a means to control one to be as the religion maps out. Guilt and fear are also used to control and shame one for not being perfect. I have raised my children with my own beliefs, my values which I discovered through my life. In regards to educating my children about religion, I have explained about organized religion, spiruality and key beliefs in many religions. Then I explained what I believe and how I came to those conclusions. I also emphasized the importance of their freedom to find out for themselves. I suggested that they check out religions and listen to what they have to say. I highlighted how many religions believe that their faith is the only true faith which can be confusing and if that occurs, to spend some time alone and go by their own thoughts and feelings.I reassured them that whichever they chose, I would support. It doesn't matter which faith so long as you instill good values and empower them to make their own choices even if that choice goes against what you chose.This is only what I believe and it may not be right for you. Another suggestion is to discuss the values and principles of each faith with your hubby and come to an agreement on what you both believe in and start with that. Good luck.
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Catholosism is dead in my opinion. People just go through the motions with no feeling or "relationship" with God. Christianity is more about building a relationship with God that is personal and lasting. But at the very least you should allow you child to see both styles of religions. If he's smart he'll figure out which one feels "real" and which one feels like you're just going through the motions while thinking about what you'll be doing when the service is over with. The whole point of having spirituality is connecting with God, and using what you've learned as a tool to deal with life. Your job is to help you child find that connection. Just don't bombard him/her with too many religious choices because then confusion sets in and none of them will ever feel real. Keep it simple and hopefully God will steer your child into a direction that is valuable and useful. Hope this helps you out.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (23 July 2009):
I think a lot of it depends on how religious you and your husband are. And this is probably something you two should have discussed before you even got married...but if you leave it up to a child to decide, that really makes no sense to me. Adults, let alone children can't differentiate between religions and find one completely bogus and that the other one makes more sense. What if your child chooses no religion? I really think it's something you and your husband should decide. Children can't decide on what they wear in the morning and make a good choice, why would they be any better at selecting a religion until they're probably a teenager?
I don't understand what you mean by what the child comes out as, as far as religion. Catholicism usually has a lot more rules that just being a nondenominational Christian. If the wife is Catholic, isn't up to her to decide what religion the children would be? This is just something I thought I heard from someone.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 the baby comes out as a person doesn't matter about your religions it doesn't affect the child unless you want your child to be either christian or catholic but you should never force views or religion upon your child you let them decide what they want to believe but you always teach them right from wrong manners etc, but don't force a religion upon them let them choose who they want to believe whether it be believing in God or believing in scientific fact or whatever they want to believe you just let them have there choice.
in the future it may change again but they have to do this on their own.
hope this helps :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, orlandblm8 +, writes (23 July 2009):
 I think that you should let your child decide on theit own. I was supposed to have a baby and my Boy Friend and I decided that we weren't going to be biast on coloring or room,clothes or toys based on the sex of the baby.
I think you should just let your child decide. Because then they can chose to ither be religious or not. Everyone love and indepent person who can think on their own, and wont do something because thats what their told or everone else is doing.
I've had friends from when I was younger whoo were one religion, and when they got older, they started to see things differently. They didn't want to go to church but they went because their parents wanted them to.
In the end, you can have your child be what ever religion you want them to, but when it comes down to it, it's thier choice. Because they could be unhappy with what you chose, and the last thing I doubt you want is your child being forced to listen to things that he or she don;t believe in.
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