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writes:I am 24, and my sister's husband took me to a hospital for a minor procedure that involved anesthesia. When I was done, he came in to see me. The nurse came in and said I could go, but needed to get dressed. She assumed he was my husband, and would help me. He offered to leave, but I discovered that I really needed his help. In the hospital, you follow instructions, and I knew I needed to get dressed, and I knew I needed help.So here I am with my brother-in-law helping me put on my clothes (underwear and bra included). He was very respectful, and tried to look away when possible.Anyway, they didn't let me leave the hospital for another two hours after I got dressed.My questions is, well, I don't know what to think of all this. It didn't really bother me or anything like that. I don't want to have sex with him or steal him from my sister, and I have a boyfriend. But I will always know that he saw me naked.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Why didn't you just ring for the nurse and explained her this gentleman is not family and can't help me , ? she would have sent you the first available female member of the staff .
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): He was doing this to simply help you that is all. As long as you have a good relationship with him and and have respect for each other, this situation would be rather funny for you two. I think he was just being kind. Dont read further into it doll. I hope you feel better :)
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reader, cheekyfriday  +, writes (6 November 2010):
I think this was more awkward for him.
Get over it steal him away from your sister, why would you even think of this?
Just because he was nice enough to look after you when your own boyfriend was a 'no show' does not mean you need to get all confused about him seeing you naked.
Personally the NURSE would have helped you if you asked for it, all you had to say is this is your brother-inlaw. That is not rock science.
I think you have an underlaying dream to be with a man as good as your sister has, or else you would have spoken up, eg, pressed the NURSE BUTTON...or asked your sisters husband to get the nurse.
Wake up to yourself, find another boyfriend if yours is not good, and leave your sisters husband out of it, his got a ring on his finger for a reason you know!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 There is no shame in this. He showed as much respect as he possibly could in this situation and that shows that he was merely a caring family member. He saw you naked? Is that truly such an issue? I doubt that was the first time he had ever seen a naked body and even then, he did not touch you or look at you in a sexual way at all. You have nothing to fear and nothing to worry about.
I hope that helps.
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (6 November 2010):
 So did the Nurse! Just think of it that way if that will make you feel any better. I took care of my father when he had cancer he couldn't wash his body I had to his entire body,I'm much too mature to think about his privates in any way other then I love my daddy and would wash him up to make sure he's comfortable because nobody would do it better than me! He felt uncomfortable I'm sure! But, he much rather have been the one!! Then to go get a random stranger to help his sister-in-law put her panties on, trust me on that!
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 I think that was actually a really loving and tender thing for him to do for you. I can imagine he was quite embarrassed and still is!
The act of being naked isn't sexual. We are all born naked and are most vulnerable when we are naked.
Although he has seen you naked, just think of it as a thing that had to be done at the time and he was mature enough to do it for you.
I don't think its something you have to laugh about, but maybe if it comes up in conversation and it helps you feel better!
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 This sounds like a "no harm, no foul" situation. He was helping you when you needed it, with no evident salacious intent. All you can do is laugh about it.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (5 November 2010):
Yea I can see why you would feel funny. But it seems like he was simply helping his family out and being repsectful. It was at a time when you couldnt help yourself.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (5 November 2010):
 I should just leave it there, he was respectful, he was there for you when you needed help. You were under the influence. He did have another alternative, he could have explained to the nurse that may be she could have helped you and he could have said that he wasnt your husband but then again, he could have been trying to help you because you are family and he knew you needed someone there. I'ts tricky, does your sister know, if he has told her then he has no ill intentions. The only way you could move on from this is to make a joke about it and then carry on as normal. The next time you have to have a procedure, take your sister. Good luck
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