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*olidus
writes:Back in August this gorgeous girl came into my job and I was too nervous to talk to her, but another guy who works there got her number. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of all the things I should have said but didn't have the nerve to! Well, around thanksgiving she came back and I said said all that stuff wanted to when I first saw her. I asked her for her number and later when I called her the reply I got was a machine saying "the number you dialed is not a working number" I was pretty heartbroken, but just a few minutes ago this girl of my dream accepted my friend request on facebook. Should I just...leave things as they are? Or should I write her a message or something telling her how beautiful I think she is and that it would be cool to hang out sometime or something? If I do write her should I mention the wrong number incident? I don't know what to do! Somebody gimme some advice.
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reader, Solidus +, writes (10 January 2009):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question I know...initiating small talk is the worst. Especially via impersonal means such as social networking sites. You're totally right about not concentrating on her being gorgeous because that just throws me off more.
I just don't know. What I do know is that it's the squeaky wheel that gets the grease. So, If I don't initiate this thing it might not get started...
Man, this is hard, I mean I don't even have an opening line lol
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Evoke further correspondence. I love that. You said she came into your job - is there something about that you could talk about? Try to get the gorgeous part out of your head and think about what you would talk to a friend or neighbor about. Maybe you could ask where she works or if she goes to school. I'm no good at small talk myself. Just try to be calm and collected and say things or ask questions so that she will feel compelled to answer back.
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reader, Solidus +, writes (9 January 2009):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmmmmm, so you guys think I should go ahead and send her a message. What exactly should I say to her to evoke further correspondence and not come off stalkery or weird. She has her number listed on her page but won't call her until I have spoken to her for a while. If I speak to her that is. So, yeah...what should I say?
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reader, Solidus +, writes (9 January 2009):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, the girl who gave me the wrong number is the same one who accepted my friend request on facebook.
I sent the request back in August after learning her name then when I saw her again at the end of November I asked her for her number. I sent the request a while ago and she's only just accepted it yesterday. So, I'm kind of on the fence about continuing to pursue her.
Even though I think about her all the time.
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (9 January 2009):
Chat with her on facebook. Do not go overboard with the compliments, telling her how beautiful she is, etc. Don't mention the wrong number thing, either. Try your best just to get to know her a little bit and maybe you can get a better feel about if she's interested or not. After chatting she may become interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Just to get this straight the girl on facebook was the one who gave you her number? Well if it is, it might be ok for you to mention it but let her know that since you have her on facebook you can chat there and not to worry bout the wrong number, see there could be different reasons for you ending up with the wrong number, some girls cant say no if a guy ask their number, and will then just give the wrong number so they don’t get calls from freaks or guys who will be stalking them (I think its like a defense device) so perhaps get to know her through facebook, I mean that might just make the conversation easier when you phone her and actually have something to speak about, ask her again for her number in a while, she probably wants to make sure she wont get burn, Dono how great the advice is but that is my personal opinion.Have a great day and good luck
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