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writes:I think my ex still cares about me, but i dont want to get my hopes up. He broke up with me thinking that i was faking a chest pain, even after i went to the emergency room. Anyways, he gave me some of his old clothes that he doesn't fit anymore, along with my other stuff he packed in for me before i left his place for good. I returned his puma jacket that i always wore, but he offered to give that to me too. now i want it back so i can sleep with it, along with his adidas jacket. Thats not healthy, is it? Plus, like a stupid idiot, i begged him to take me back over the phone and he kinda paused and laughed at my jokes and i seriously think he was considering it. He also emailed me that he forgot to pack in my shoes and that maybe we could have dinner when i get my shoes back. So i guess my questions are, is it ok to take the jackets from him that were his? also, do u think he still likes me or wants to be with me but that maybe he was just scared from the emergency room incident?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (9 January 2009):
 I would think that he seems a bit guilty because he treated you badly when in fact you were having chest pains and wound up in the emergency room. Sorry hon but what you described in this post is not a healthy relationship. The chest pains you had I am guessing could have been brought on by his lack of consideration or care and affection for you. Stress CAN cause chest pains along with depression and other things.........LIKE HEARTATTACKS! 8-(
The thing you must consider here is that in honesty this guy really isn't good for you. If he broke up with you because you were having chest pains, he didn't choose to stand by you in your time of need. WHAT IF YOU WERE REALLY HAVING A HEART ATTACK? THE LIKELYHOOD OF HIM BEING THERE WOULD HAVE BEEN PRETTY SLIM I WOULD SAY BECAUSE HE BROKE UP WITH YOU BECAUSE HE THOUGHT YOU WERE LYING I SUPPOSE.
Chest pains are not something that you take lightly. They can be signs of symptoms of many conditions. I was having chest pains and place on Nitro-glycerin and come to find out I had a Rare form of medullary thyroid cancer...also rare form tumorous type. You see he abandoned you in your time of need and ANYTHING COULD HAVE BEEN WRONG! I suggest you let this one go and seek help for your unhealthy state of emotional and perhaps mental well being. You DESERVE the best, don't settle for less. You DESERVE someone who WILL love and care for you in good times and bad. I can imagine how you feel cause I have been there in times of my life too. Don't let this guy bring you down. What he is giving you is false hopes and if he isn't willing to work on himself and his attitudes you are far better off without him.
Move on with your life, take time to heal. Give him back those jackets! It will honestly do you a world of good. Get the help you need to work through this and do whatever it takes to get your Self_Esteem up, you ARE WORTHY of better treatment than he has given you. SEEK THE REFUGE OF GOD and TRUST THAT HE WILL DELIVER YOU. HON HE REALLY CAN. I AM SENDING YOU A VIRTUAL *HUG, MY PRAYERS AND A SMILE. MAY GOD KEEP YOU SAFELY IN THE PALMS OF HIS HANDS.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Sometimes people break up for strange reasons, sometimes not even real reasons, or it might not seem like a real reason to others but to the person who is breaking it of f it might be a big deal, I think in your case your ex obvouisly feels very strong about lies, and trust, and as you said he thought you lied, but might relize now that you didn’t, it soinds to me like he is still very much inlove with you, go for the dinner and make up, its hard to find someone to love in todays life so when you get it you need to fight for it and always work to keep the fire going, good luck and I am sure in your next post you will tell us that you are back together
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