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writes:HiI had dated this guy and because of some things on both our parts , we kind of broke up. I tried very hard to work things out but he would always be mean to me, so I decided to accept that he didn't want the relationship back, but everytime I let go he would call. This lasted about a year and a half. One day about two months ago, he called me and told me he missed me. Let me tell you this, but please don't look at me as a bad person because I was told something and mislead. When I met the guy he told me that he was getting a divorce from he wife because he had caught her with someone else several times. That's one of the reasons we had broken up because he never did it and I started seeing someone one else. Now, back to what I said earlier he said he mised me and the next week he said he wanted to start back spending time together. We talked on the phone one day then I didn't hear from him util a week later, so I said that I would end this because He was still in his same situation and he had said things and hadn't matched them with his actions.Two weeks had past and I had not heard from him so I called him to end things like an adult, but he started telling me he hadn't called because of our last conversation we had and I didn't talk much and he was not going to try to read my mind. This man thinks he can treat me any kind of way because I dated someone else in 2007 while he was still living with his wife who he was going to divorce years ago and still is. He said he was going to call me back but he didn't . If we see each other he wants to do that on his terms and hardly ever calls because he is to tired atfer work. Anyway I have decied to end this completely. I want to do it in an mature way, but can't seem to do that because I can't get him on the phone long enough or see him. I was thinking about writting a letter to end things. Do you think I should write the letter or just don't worry about it.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (26 June 2010):
 Grrr...end it. He is majorly messing with you. You deserve better.
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reader, romany +, writes (26 June 2010):
 Nope, dont contact him at all, no letter, no calls, and dont even give him the courtesy of talking to him, ever again, Alto I'd bet he'll be intouch again, coz that is what playas do, but if he rings, say nothing, and hang up, and laugh bout it, and keep doing it, he'll get the message and a taste of his own medicine. Are you like me, and feel the need of closure? I've recently discovered that closure isn't something that is always obtainable. Sometimes you just have to accept that, and think f**k you, and realise he is not as nice as you are, he doesn't have compassion for others feelings, not yours and not his wives. He is worthless and not worthy of you. Bin him and move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 June 2010):
Nothing would make a difference to him. I think you should just move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): hes a sleezz let slezzy dogs lie. just get a restraing order and get on with a reallife
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (26 June 2010):
 I'd write a very long detailed letter and at the bottom id put cc: chief of police local substation. you don't need to actually send a cc but it'll let him think the cops are watching out for you assuming it really is as bad and potentiall dangerous as i think you make it sound. Stay calm. R
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (26 June 2010):
 Hello,
He is a married man and i would suggest has no intention of any kind of divorce. He will feed you any line to keep in contact when he is bored. I would run away and never bother to contact him again. (my opinion) Hannah
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