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writes:My ex just split up with me, told me he didn't know if he felt the same way anymore and didn't want a girlfriend. We have been together about 5 months and it was a big shock to me. Though i do think he still cares about he told me he still really likes me and would not be able to cope if i found a new boyfriend. I think i got a bit needy with him and i realise this now and the time apart has definitely influenced the way i will act in my future relationships. i want to prove this to him.online on like myspace and twitter, i have been posting happy status and making sure he doesn't know i'm upset i just want him to think i'm getting on with things and i don't need him (which i don't, proving i'm not clingy). when he told me i respected his decision and he kissed my head and cheek and hugged me. i don't know whether i should wait for him to sort his head out or move on? I can't help missing him and geting really jelous all the time ? He was my first love and this really hurts, i just don't know what i should do ?I have emailed him randomly friendly conversations not mentioning us but now he's stopped answering i reckon he thinks im trying to get him back.I'm very confused, do i try and get over him or get him back ? What makes this process easier ? thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): I would say you have to move on.
Guys try to be nice as a way of getting out of a relationship and basically what he means by him saying he would be upset if you had a boyfriend is that he just wants you there on the sideline incase he maybe changes his mind.
I understand how your feeling, but you dont need to prove anything to him this is where girls go wrong dont TRY to post happy stuff so he knows your happy because he might not care and if he doesnt respond to it like asking you how you are and things like that then he isnt interested in even your daily life.
5 months isnt a long time. This guy mostly likely a. doesnt know what he wants b. isnt over an ex gf (if there is any recent one) c. is just using you. Its most likely a mixture of all 3. So move on BE HAPPY with someone else go on dates or maybe even be single for a while.
What girls end up doing after a break up is analyzing everything including there behavior you said you got needy. Thiis is most likely not the case it is probably not you at all, if he doesnt know if he "feels the same" anymore after only 5 months then he didnt really want you that much to begin with no matter what he said or did. So they end of doing that and trying to "prove" something instead of saying hey maybe this guy wasnt that interested in me to begin with so i should move on. And you need to be smart and do just that especially since it was only 5 months. He's already stating he doesnt know anymore and that should be a big red flag.
He will most likely be on and off with you once you start to move on and he might get lonely he'll come trying to get you back just dont fall for it say that you dont feel the same way about him either throw it back in his court and get on with your life your young there are so many people and once u get rid of someone who is so wishy washy instead of freting about it you'll feel so much better.
Dont let him win, you control who walks in and out of your life dont let him just push you around. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 February 2010):
Move on. This guy doesn't want you, but doesn't want yo have you which is a sign of a controlling guy who needs help elsewhere. Focus on something else, like your work, or having fun with friends. But don't bother wasting time.
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reader, 738 +, writes (2 February 2010):
That guy is over you so you have to move on there is nothing to wait on cuz he has already made his decision i know cuz this has happened to me before you should just stop talking to him at all and you dont have to pretend to be happy cuz you can be happy find your true soulmate and make wise decisions
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reader, donnadonut +, writes (2 February 2010):
move on.He doesnt want you but he doesnt want anyone else to have you? what sort of friend is that?The best way to move on is to focus on someone else, if he see's that you are actually happy instead of pretending and broadcasting then maybe he would want you backBut then maybe it would be too late? :)
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