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male
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello all hope you a doing well this is going to be pretty long but I appreciate all the help I can get ok then So I'm just looking for advice on a situation firstly I'm male and he is also a male to and at the start of the week I decided to take a this guy who I haven't known for long on a little get away everything was great and fine until they had to leave early for some reason this broke me I haven't felt that bad in a long while and it's made me very confused I don't really feel like I have an attraction to him but after those short few days I'm desperate to spend as much time as possible with him and I've been non stop thinking about the whole situation and I just don't understand why that because he had to leave early why it's messed me up so much even tho I'm seeing him again at work he isn't a very open person but we get on very well what would you guys suggest i do should i maybe talk it through wirh him or not keep in mind we are both straight well so I think and I don't want to even be close to ruining this friendship any ideas on how to have this convocation without actually saying it and how could I make our relationship closer and things u can do with him but that mean we can spend time and talk basicly just all the advice you guys can give would be so awesome
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reader, AMC +, writes (21 February 2018):
I agree with the previous response - I think you need to maybe spend more time with the person, as a friend, see what he is like, and try to determine from that what kind of friendship you want with him. It is easy to over analyse situations, but maybe just take a step back and keep things casual.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (17 February 2018):
Hang on a minute, you call this a friendship but you also say that you don’t know the guy very well. Which is it? It’s human nature to have bias – people we like and whose approval we seek. That’s why friendship can be intense, just like romantic relationships, at times. But as you don’t know him well yet, you may have idealised him in your head and projected on to him your idea of a really satisfying friend that meets your needs.
My advice is not to overthink this, but to take is as a signal that you should get to know this person better. Offer to hang out and do things together and see if you can build a stronger friendship. The more you see of him, the more you’ll know if he really is good for you.
But don’t put your eggs all in to one basket, neglect other friendships or stop meeting new people either.
I wish you all the very best.
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