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writes:Hey all, I am 14 nearly 15 in may. I am gay but sometimes wish i wasn't. I hang around with girls at school and go twon with them. Some of my friends know am gay. But they are all girls what know. I could never tell my mate whos my best male mate I am gay. He plays football always talks about girls etc. But i really want to tell people am gay what should i do? I dont know weather i should wait untill am older or what? I know am gay just cus am young doesn't mean am confused etc. Ive done things with lads not going to go into detail. But the other thing is i was at a party and i kissd a girl it was really nice but i regret it. The girl now has been talking to me loads and wants to meet up again but i dont cus she thinks that am straight but it was a mistake. I think i did it to try and impress my mates but i generly liked it. Anyway the question am asking is should i tell people am gay? Help my queston is clear just tried to give a bit of backgrond of my situation. Thankyou all. Xx =) Reply to this Question
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (11 April 2012):
You should wait until you are older. You'll be better equipped to handle it emotionally and physically (and by physically I mean you may get into fights, especially at your age).
The world really isn't ready for such an "advanced" concept as homosexuality. It is viewed as strange, unnatural, unnecessary, a mental illness in some cases, a luxury of personal freedom at best.
As far as the girl you kissed is concerned, all you need do is tell her that you aren't interested in her. No need to go into the gay thing. Handle it the same way any other normal man would.
But now, you did say you liked it? You know, you don't HAVE to stay gay either. Why not try it out, see how it goes, and make a decision about the matter rather than fall ill to the general think that being gay is something that you were born with. Its not. Its a choice you make.
Remember, while you have the "right" to be gay, other people have the "right" to think and say whatever they want to about it as well. What you do behind closed doors is no one's business. I would keep it secret if I was gay.
The only advantage of letting others know you are gay, that I can see, is being more easily identifiable by other gay dudes and be able to hook up with them more easily.
There you have it, a completely realistic, objective and honest reflection of the world we live in. This is the way it is, whether you like it or not. Good luck.
If any of what I say is upsetting to you in this response, imagine how upset you will be when you hear these things from your friends, your family, your roommates. I'm some stranger on a forum.
You don't get a second chance to hide it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 If you feel you are ready to tell people then you should, this is up to you to make this decision. It is a big decision because not everyone might be supportive, I know that is horrible to say but it is things you need to be prepared for. Personally I don't think you should be ashamed of who you are and you should be honest with yourself and the world, as there is nothing wrong with being gay, but you need to make sure you are mentally prepared for any negative comments you might get. Good luck.
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 You don't have to tell anyone. But at the same time you do need to be true to yourself.
Kissing that girl to impress your mates wasn't a good move. You weren't true to yourself and this could backfire on you.
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