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writes:i need help here....it all started when i got back in contact with my ex. my ex and me had been friends before for 7 years and then one night we kissed and everything changed and we started dating. i fell in love with him but he just walked away and broke my heart. i came up to school and met this other guy who is so nice and spoils me and does so much for me, and i know he loves me and i think i love him too. we've only really been together for 6 months though. we've had our fights yes, but i think that i love him.Then it all got bad when my ex who i mentioned above contacted me and wanted to see me, i was still with the guy from school but i still went to go see my ex because i missed him. i didn't tell my boyfriend (the one from school) i went to see him because i felt bad about the feelings that had re-ignited in me and i knew he would be upset if i told him. ever since i saw him (my ex) i've been talking with him more and not telling my boyfriend. well me and my boyfriend started fighting a lot more but he always stuck it out and wanted to work through the fights and stay with me. then we decided to start seeing other people, it was mostly my idea, but he agreed to do it. neither of us saw other people and it was hardly like anything had changed, just the title.Then he accused me of not appreciating everything he does for me, that made me really mad and we added the title of 'single.' but after i got over that and he apologized, we continued the same way we had. then recently my ex (the one from school who was practically my b/f) told me he knew that i went to go see my ex 2 months ago and he's known all along ever since it happened. he said that he accidentaly read my myspace messages and he has appologized so many times and he says he feels horrible. i'm upset that he kept it from me and went behind my back and invaded my privacy and i don't know if i can trust him anymore. i still have feelings for this other guy though, who i was friends with before. i asked him to come see me at school. i told the other guy (the one from school) that my ex was coming and he was upset but then later cooled down and told me to just have fun. i've been ignoring him for the past 2 days and hanging out with my old ex (the 7 year guy) and i've been having a lot of fun and i may be falling for him again. but i still have feelings for the other guy who didn't walk away from me and who says he still loves me more than anything, but i don't know if i trust him anymore because of what he did. what should i do? who should i choose? i really need help here...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): i am in almost the EXACT same situation. im still with my current bf, but ive been secretly talking to my ex. i think i love my ex more than i love my new man, though everyone seems to think i SHOULD be with the new guy. but deep down my heart is telling me that the love i feel for my ex is so much deeper somehow and ill never be able to get over that. i feel like he is my soulmate, and i dont know what to do. we met in high school and hes my 1st love. the new guy is amazing as well, and really deserves someone whose heart is 100% in it. i just feel so guilty. both of them want to marry me, and i dont know who to choose. i know i made it seem like i want to be with the ex, but it would make life SOOOO complicated. we live 2000 miles apart for one thing...anyways, i understand how you feel, and i think ther only advice i can give you is, when you are laying in bed at night, and at that moment you are about to fall asleep, what are you thinking? whose face do you see, and name do you think of? if you close your eyes and picture somone next to you, who is it?
i really hope i helped you :/ good luck hun
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reader, simonyyus  +, writes (14 March 2007):
 first of all, the guy from school seem a good guy...i really admire him for how he accept things though it will hurt him in turn. As i see the case, he didnt do nothing wrong. Each of us will do anything if we feel our lover is behinde something. He gives you freedom and trust and that is what love mean. but u used it wrongly. You broke his trust and he still loves you ( nice guy really). And you, it is not fare...u cant do something like this to some one you loveif you have a real love. But i dont think you have a reall love for him. i tell you to go back to your ex boyfried again b/c you dont deserve the guy from school. im sorry to say this....good luck with your new life.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (25 February 2007):
 I think you need to decide who you want to be with, it isn't fair on the new guy he sounds so nice, yes, he did wrong checking your e-mails and he feels terrible for doing it but would you check his in the same situation? and you say you don't know whether you can trust him when really you haven't been 100% snow white yourself... Your ex- comes and goes out of your life are you prepaired to live this life or do you want a trusting happy relationship? after all he has been through he still tells you he loves you its pretty plain to me who you should choose but the ball is in your court babes,Good luck and I wish you well x
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