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female
age
41-50,
*atty75
writes:I have been with my wonderful fiance' for nearly a year and we planned to get married by the end of next year. However, his ex found out about him getting married by hacking into his email account and she went livid. (She is really obsessed with him)I start receiving really bad anonymous emails calling me names and told me to back of as he is still married. Lots of his friends have called as they have received emails from her saying how bad he is and everything. They were really confused what is going on?? I know that he is divorced as I have seen his divorce papers, I know his lawyer and even have met with his parents.I cannot believe that she is still living in such a fantasy world and thinking that they were still married!? Mutual friends told us that she is saying about having 2nd child with him and going for a holiday soon!? They have never lived in the same country since 2004!?We are not in the same country as his ex so I don't know what to do to cope with that... Should I speak to her or what shall I do? Please help.Thank you!Patty
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reader, babomi  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 first, she s his EX wife, you re his partner now, not her, don t forget that
second, u don t live in the same country? that is good news!
don t give up to her emotional threats and invasion, have a talk with your fiance to see what can be done about it, try to go through it together, that s the most important
as for stalkers and people living in delusion, the less responses and importance you give them, the better chances you have this person will let go
if she s so delusional, your friends must be aware that she s mentally unstable and this is not your direct problem
also, do a check of your internet presence as for you both : change passwords, limit the accessibility of your online data, google urselves to see if it s easy to track down personal info about both of you and try to delete them (there are also companies who re specialized into this)
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