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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:So it has been a year now since I first fell in love with this person.. he is 2 years older than me and we kinda had this thing going on between us. I knew he felt something for me from the way he acted and talked to me. Whenever there was a party we would dance together, and whenever we looked at each other we knew there was something going on. One day he randomly calls me on the day of my birthday to wish me a happy birthday when I did not even give him my number. I thought it was cute. He also tagged along with his friend, which was our mutual friend, and came to my birthday party. My friends told me to tell him how I feel since it was obvious he felt the same way. But when I did, he replied by telling me that he was sorry and that he was seeing someone else and did not mean to hurt my feelings. What should I do? I cannot move on.. and every day he is on my mind and I cannot stop thinking about him. It has been a year now. I really need help please, I am very desperate. I especially need guys opinions on this too. Please! speak ur mind! tell me what to do!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): I'm sorry but I am a female replying. I have been in a state of limbo like this for about a year and all I can say is there is no easy cure for this. When someone captures your heart you tend to think about them and wish things could be different with them all the time. You can really only move on when you are ready to and this is different for everyone. The only thing that has worked for me is to link my thought of him with a negative emotion so when I think of him a not so plesant thought pops up. I sat around waiting for him to call and contact me for months and he never did. Eventually I accepted he wouldn't call again and can get through the days without dwelling on it all the time. Being physically busy also helps, anything that makes you tired. This is all a matter of time and I promise you you will get over this. Looking after yourself by doing things and then rewarding yourself also helps. Put yourself and your own needs and interests above anything else for a while.
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