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anonymous
writes:i am incredibly shy and do not get involved in conversations with my girlfriend or even some of my best friends because i am too shy to raise my opinion or even chat.my social life is in ruins because of my shyness and i am good in most subjects so people consider me as a geek, what shall i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionright i know i said that i couldn't speak up when in a group of my friends, but i've just realised this morning that i try to speak up but they don't listen to me, and when they do listen they just take the mickey out of me.
I walk to school with these friends everyday, but i don't feel comfortable becoz they talk about sex the whole way there when 1.none of us have had sex, 2.i sometimes meet up with my girlfriend on the way and we both feel uncomfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok thanks for the advice, i'd like as much feedback as possible and i will take all of this into my day
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reader, chandra Mcmillan +, writes (8 October 2008):
 Do you know somthing, I have to say this first SCREW THEM. It is nice to hear that there are still people out there that are edjucated. You are not a Geek unless you like being this known as that.
There are no cures to shyness but what I would say is think about the reasons why your shy.
Have you been bullied in the past?
Told your thoughts dont matter?
I think it is most likely because you are afraid people will think your making them look stupid because you DO have knowledge.
If you have somthing to say say it. Try doing it in a small group of close friends to start and then move on to larger groups.
You have a girlfriend talk to her.
I hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): Please, please, please speak up! Look I have ALWAYS been an extremely shy person. At 27, I am awkwardly shy. It affects my job because I have to work harder because people don't think I'm competent because I'm not social and don't speak up. It has affected my love life because I have to wait for guys to pursue me as I am too shy to flirt first and take a chance. You see, you should really practice being as outspoken as you can while you're young. Once you get to be my age it gets pretty hard to change your ways. Also, its just not fun, you miss out on interacting with a lot of excellent people. Good luck!
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