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writes: My ex-boyfriend and I have been broken up for a little over a year and i still love him. I never stopped loving him. We broke up for many different reasons. Some tings were my fault and some things were his fault. I do not talk to him anymore but I still talk to a few of his family members and sometimes when I am around them I run into him. I want to know if I should tell him I still love him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): You need to tell him. I am in the same situation- have loved my ex for years and never had enough courage to tell him that I still love him. We see each other a few times a year and I know he still cares for me but the timing is never right. I'm beginning to realize that I need to trust my heart and take a risk to let him know how I feel. Maybe the timing still won't be right, but at least I won't regret never being honest with him. A wonderful love is a rare gift and worth the risk of being hurt. Now that I have decided to tell him I love him, the question is when and how to do it??
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): First, take the approach that the things you didn't like about him are stilltrue. Do you still want to get back together? Also, what has your life been like since you broke up? Have you met anyone else? Has he? Are you just lonely and looking to reconnect with a "safe bet"? You'd be doing yourself a disservice to go back to something that didn't work just because you're lonely or afraid of uncharted territory.
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reader, sarah y +, writes (16 September 2006):
It all depends really on whether he has moved on and found himself another girlfriend.If this is the case then it`s probably not a good idea to say anything but to try and move on and find yourself somebody else.Maybe ask somebody from his family,make it sound casual,if he is seeing somebody.If he is not then the next time you bump into him suggest an innocent drink as friends and remember all the good times you were both together and piece together what went wrong.Then and only then can you say you still have feelings for him but remember if he does not it`s better for you to leave and walk away as friends......Good luck.
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (16 September 2006):
 I think you should think of all the reasons that you split up for in the first place. Also you have to remember that he is an ex for a reason and things are never the same when you go back.
I respect you for admiting that some of it was your fault. Maybe you should think about how you can improve your faults. If your feelings for him are genuine and strong go for it. But please be careful, he may reject you and this will break your heart even more than it is broken now. The only reason I am suggesting that he might do this is because he has had so long to come to terms with your seperation that he now prefers single life as there are no arguments. On the other hand he could be missing you as much as you are him, but his male pride is getting in the way of him saying anything.
What have you got to lose hunny? Go on tell him how you feel, it could be the best move you ever make and if he does reject you then it is his loss. Good luck hunny
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reader, thislove +, writes (16 September 2006):
I would like to start by saying that you should make sure you really love him and not just the good moments you shared together. If you are sure you're not just missing the idea of being with him or the feeling of being in a relationship again, then you should tell him exactly how you feel. After all, its been over a year and your life needs to move forward. This will require a lot of courage, I'm sure, and while you're wishing for the best possible outcome, you should also prepare yourself for the worst case scenario. Best of luck.
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reader, LiLKiss +, writes (16 September 2006):
 ok there is couple or few things that i would do..
do you think that he might at least like you if not love you because i can feel if someone still likes me just something in their look when they look at you. Sometimes if you say how you feel it might just push him even more from you. So just in my opinion i would try being friends with him if possible in my opinion you have to crowl before you can walk so step by step and if you still love him try to show him.. what if you tell him that you still love him and he say "im sorry but i dont feel the same" that would crush you. so take it easy and even all of this i just told you you will decide best what you going to do next. i wish you the best and i really hope that there will be agin something between you 2 beacsue i know how is to love someone that doesnt belong to you anymore..
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