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writes:Well I'm a 14 Year Old Kid Now (teenager)i have this cousin who i Have a HUGE Crush on since i was about 5 or something! yes that long.so anyway , i kinda flirt with him , we make eye contact often and we have broken the touch barrier , once , held me from the back , taking my arm to teach me how to play ping pong , another time he took my hand to walk me through the garden and told me we should jump in the pool together (we have a family villa).When We Accidentally touch , he doesn't move , and neither do i.i remember once before , i was lying down on the floor with a blanket underneath , then he came and lied next to me. and once i was swinging then he came and sat right next to me , and before ; he held me like a baby (You know , the way the groom lifts his bride and stuff ) and threw me into the pooland i dream about him. A LOT. So .. what should i do ?i really want to tell him how i feel , but i can't , because we're family and stuff.so what do you think about this whole thing ?and don't tell me it's just infatuation because im a teenager and it's hormones and stuff , because this crush has existed since i was 5 and it just grows stronger.Thank You For Reading (:I Could really Use Some Advices. 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): I had an affair with a cousin when I was 17 years old.You don't need to tell this to him because if you does,he maybe has a feeling with you too and it will started it here.You are two young,your feelings with him will not be forever.when i was in this situation,I strongly suggest him to stop what we are doing because it is not proper and it is a sin.And now,I cannot remember that i loved him.
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reader, StuffiesQueen +, writes (26 April 2011):
StuffiesQueen is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks For Everyone ^^ I Forgot to Mention he's 18.
I Know It's Kind of Risky For the Dna And stuff
lol .. i had hope , but not now anymore :P
But i just want to point out that i'm Egyptian and my Society doesn't really accept the whole Having a boyfriend thing
so i'm not thinking about dating .. i actually was thinking about future and Marriage but .. i guess you're right.
Thanks Again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): You probably don't want to hear this, but it's probably BECAUSE you've had this crush since you were 5 that it's still strong for you now. I don't know if you feel you've known a lot of other boys and they really don't compare or whatever, but at your age no matter how many you've known, it's NOT a lot. He may be "all you've ever known" in that sense, so a feeling of attachment is not surprising.However, you need to remove yourself from this attachment, because otherwise it will really hurt later. You may not be able to see or imagine that, but the damage will be very hard to overcome if you let things go further.Try to spend more time with your friends and get to know more people. :)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Not unusual at all to have feelings for cousins since they "seem" to be" removed enough from being close kin BUT the DNA won't lie. You might want to find an alternate path for your feelings . This isn't healthy to follow through with. kin is kin and any mistakes could result in an unwanted result. The safe thing to do is find a BF that is oustside the family.
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reader, MamaBear  +, writes (26 April 2011):
Well, you said it loud & clear in your letter - " i really want to tell him how i feel , but i can't , because we're family and stuff." You can enjoy this cousin but hands off! You cannot marry in many cultures. So, my suggestion is to enjoy the time spent with your cousin but do not cross the line. You are older now and things you did at age 5 won't be appropriate now as a teenage! Just that simple.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (26 April 2011):
 I would suggest NOT acting on this. Think about how it will affect your family as well as what it would do to your relationship with him if he doesn't feel the same way.
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