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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): I agree with Frank. He will likely find out about this and if the source is someone other than you it will cause him to wonder what else you might be hiding from him. Others have said the act was harmless. I have 2 problems with that. First if it were really harmless you wouldn't need to keep it from him. Second the act of keeping it from him would be wrong even if the original act were ok. Hiding things from your partner is a sure path to ruining the trust you two have in each other.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (6 October 2007):
 Firstly, stop drinking. No matter how this turns out.
Next, yes you'd better tell him. Mainly becuase one of your girlfriends WILL talk about it to someone, and he is bound to find out. If he finds out from someone else, he will never trust anything you say you did not do.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, x-kay_kay-x  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 at the end of the day it was a girly night out what he doesn` t no won` t hurt him just make sure u don` t do it again u r aloud to keep secrets i bet even he has some secrets just act as if nothing happened and if he finds out just say u carn` t remember if u did sorry but u were all drunk
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (5 October 2007):
Don't tell and don't do it again.
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reader, Asexy +, writes (5 October 2007):
 I don't think it's any big deal, really, except that maybe you shouldn't drink so much in the future.
Sometime in the future, you might say something like: I flashed my tit at a stranger in a bar once. Keep it light and make sure it's just a "dumb thing" you did when you were drunk.
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reader, claudette +, writes (5 October 2007):
claudette is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u so much guys for all your help! i feel so much better
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reader, little miss helpful  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 no you dont need to tell him you havent cheated and you didnt want it to go any further did ya? its just a bit of harmless fun!
dont worry sweetie just think of it like some models always have there boobs out dont they and they have nothing to feel guilty about so you definatley dont.
cheer up and take care its fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): I totally agree with TULLULAH and Uncle Phil. Forget about it and there is no need to feel guilty, but try not to make a habit of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): Just learn from it. You'd be mad if he showed a girl his penis or something. So just make sure it doesn't happen again. And watch your drinking, when I was your age I got slipped the date rape drug. Make sure you never drink from anyone else's cup or drink, and always keep your drink in your hand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): i wouldn't tell him, it would make him worry everytime you go out wuth your friends!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (5 October 2007):
 Keep it to yourself, you will only cause suspicion. It was harmless, just a silly drunken moment.
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reader, stina +, writes (5 October 2007):
 Hi Claudette,
Well, it's not like you cheated...but people in relationships don't typically expose themselves to others. This is really your call whether or not you tell your boyfriend.
Personally, if it were me, I would say something. And then I'd never do it again.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): Just keep it to yourself - there's no harm done. What's a flash of tit between strangers?
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