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writes:i have a first love come back into my life after 10 yrs. i'm separated from my daughter's father we remain close and even were intimate after the separation a few months ago. my first love and i have been communicating for a month now and he's coming into town for a week next month and wants to see me. i'm at a lost. i still love him but i'm scared. should i tell him that for 10 yrs i never stopped thinking about him and i want to try again? Reply to this Question
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 HiSlow down! Im in a very similar situation myself right now! I got divorced 13 years ago, split from him 16 yrs ago. A few weeks ago i rang him (my little bro has always been in touch with him off n on) and i asked him to give me his number. I saw my ex hubby 7 yrs ago. He was happy at the time with someone hes got 2 kids with. Hes recently split from her. But anyway, we met up last week 3 times for lunch, went out sat night with him and my bro, going out with him tomorrow night and he has been mega confused this week because he said he doesnt know if i am his past or future, i said im your present! He said his old feelings are back for me, i had to slow him down. People assumed we were getting back together because we met up. He felt pushed into that and i made it clear to him at the moment i am happy catching up as we are and NOT going any further! We have both had children since we split all those yrs ago. People change! You dont know if your ex has yet.Why not go a bit slower and see what happens because i believe if somethings meant to be it will be.Good luck.C xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): hiyahid see what he has to say first then maybe tell him what have you got to loose!gud luck xx
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reader, red1982 +, writes (20 September 2007):
What have you got to loose by telling him? I say go for it. He obviously has some feelings for you else he wouldn't want to meet up with you after all this time. I say go for it!!Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): If you don't tell him how you feel, he'll never know! Men don't have the 'seventh sense' that women seem to possess!I suspect he may be thinking along the same lines as yourself, which is probably why he want to see you!Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Yes, I think that you should tell him if your feelings are genuine for your first love. But you won't ever be able to have a new relationship while your still intimate with your ex husband? Since you have a daughter together I hope that you will always have a civil realtionship with your ex husband. There only so much you can expect a new love to understand though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Do you really have to make big revelations about your feelings for him? Remember that people change over time, especially between the ages of 12 and 22. Why don't you use the time to get to know him again? Flirt, get intimate, give hints that you are interested by all means, but try and let things develop naturally as they do in new relationships. If he is interested as well, I am sure that he will come back and visit again and again. Take your time, before saying to much and see if the magic is still there. Good luck
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