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writes:i'm dating my lesbian cousin and i'm scared...i mean, i like her but i'm scared of what the family will do...when i told my mom i was bi, she almsot sent me to a different state to live with my grandmother...if i tell her about my cousin (her sister's daughter) she'll freaking kill me...my cousin doesn't give a crap but i'm worried because i dont want to feel like how i did when i was younger (long story).I was able to hide it but my cousin already suspects something (he's 16. I'm 16 too and my "girlfriend" is 17.)my stepfather suspects something too and i hate him. i know he'll just keep blackmailing me and i have a feeling he'll try to make us do something embarassing for him so he doesn't tell...i just dont want to be separated from her...What do i do?and how do i tell my dad (my real one)? He was counting on me giving him some grandchildren and i know he wont like adoption..so,i guess this is two questions in one...should i end it with my cousin?how do i tell me dad (he wants grandchildren so bad)that i'm with a girl better lone my cousin?
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reader, Britt12345  +, writes (2 September 2011):
Well personally, I think there's no problem being with your cousin
I mean, I have a crush on my cousin, and I have liked her for a reallyyyyyy long time
I dont think you should end it with your cousin
But for your other problem, Your real dad should accept it if you choose to get an adopted child, you should do what makes you happy, not what makes others happy and you upset.
So good luck, I hope I somewhat helped if someone didn't already ^^
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reader, Drat001  +, writes (11 January 2011):
Wait. Why wouldn't your dad like an adopted grandchild? He has no choice if the child will be a boy or a girl, he has no choice in any of it. Would he not love a grandchild born naturally in a hetero relationship if it has a physical or mental disability? A grandparent should be a grandparent, and love their grandchild unconditionally, if that child is brought into their life by their son/daughter giving birth or through adoption. Any grandparent who doesn't love their grandchild because it is adopted doesn't deserve to be a grandparent.
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reader, openmind +, writes (11 November 2009):
There is nothing wrong with liking girls but your cousin im sorry boo but that just isnt right. I could maybe understand a step cousin but this chick is blood realation to you not cool. It isnt healthy to be with your cousin you should both look in to meeting other girls. And if your stepfather if the embarassing act you were referring to is something sexual then you need to tell someone immediately. As far as your dad goes he will come to terms with your sexuality eventually but the cousin thing i doubt it it just isnt right good luck
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reader, LookingForAnswers +, writes (8 November 2009):
look you can be with a girl, but being with your cousin... that's just not right. i understand that it's hard, but maybe you should try to meet other girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): How did you start going out in the first place? Don't you know any other lesbians? I think that you should come out to your dad if he doesn't know already, and as regards to your cousin, I wouldn't say anything yet.
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