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writes:ok so i have been seeing this guy for a few months and i know for me it was love at first sight. i just felt connected to him somehow. anyways we moved in together already and things are great. only thing is that i am having a hard time not telling him that i love him. i want to tell him so bad but im afraid he doesn't feel as strongly. part of the reason im afraid to tell him is that he doesn't want to label us as bf gf because labels bring expectations. we are exclusive though. do you think i should tell him how i feel or wait for him to say it first. im kinda afraid one day its just going to slip out and scare him away lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): I confused. You live together and I assume that means that you have sex with each other but he doesn't want anyone to know that you are in a relationship?
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reader, alternaterealities +, writes (24 November 2010):
 If he weren't so afraid of calling you his girlfriend, I'd say at this stage it wouldn't be a scary event. A few weeks or maybe a month of dating is a bit soon but months.... And he won't call you his girlfriend? Exclusive or not, what is he afraid of?
Maybe try this. "I know you haven't wanted to label anything. It's just that we've been dating for several months and you make me feel all these great feelings inside, and I don't even know what to call it." Or something of the sort. Don't go dropping the L word until you can get him to toss out something for you. My advice. Because once you say those words you can't take them back.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Don't say it and don't wait for him to say it. Rip these three words out of your consciousness. To make him stay with you, and continue being a good guy, it's better to not care where the future is headed because then he would feel free to love you, not because he has to.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Tell him how you feel. If he's scared by that then is he really that good of a guy? I know that even if I wasn't on the same page yet, I wouldn't be scared away in this situation. I would be scared if it was in the first few weeks, but after a few months he's likely feeling it too or he wouldn't have stuck around.
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